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Crawf Weir Psychotherapy Internal Family Systems Therapy. Insight and Validation. Compassion and Healing. Courage and Self-leadership.

True self-acceptance starts with appreciating and understanding every part of you—even the ones you struggle with.In Int...
12/12/2024

True self-acceptance starts with appreciating and understanding every part of you—even the ones you struggle with.

In Internal Family Systems (IFS), we learn that the parts of us carrying fear, frustration, or doubt just want to feel seen, valued, and safe. When we pause, listen, and offer gratitude, we can say, ‘Thank you for helping me all these years. I’m here now, and you don’t have to work so hard anymore.’

When your parts feel appreciated and understood, something incredible happens—they transform. These parts take on new, healthier roles that support your well-being and align with your core Self.

✨ Swipe through for 5 steps to practice acceptance and create space for transformation. What’s one part of yourself you can be grateful for today? Share in the comments below!

10/12/2024

The Buddha once said, ‘Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.’ While none of us can escape pain, suffering comes from resisting and avoiding it.

What if the darkness we try so hard to escape is actually our path to healing and growth? The parts of us that carry pain, shame, or fear are not obstacles—they’re guides. They show us what we need to do to make peace within ourselves and move forward.

Here are four steps to turn darkness into light:
1️⃣ Turn toward what you avoid. Pause and notice what’s happening inside. Say to yourself, ‘I can feel pain, but I’m not running away.’
2️⃣ Listen to the parts of you that are in pain. Ask gently, ‘What are you trying to tell me?’ Often, pain protects something vulnerable, like a need for safety, love, or value.
3️⃣ Accept your pain. Acceptance isn’t giving up—it’s about meeting reality as it is and building from there.
4️⃣ Learn from your painful experiences. Each challenge offers an opportunity to grow wiser and more resilient.

Pain is part of life’s journey, but when we approach it with compassion and curiosity, we can transform it into a source of wisdom and strength.

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We all long to feel appreciated and understood. Sometimes, we didn’t get this from the people around us—and that can hur...
09/12/2024

We all long to feel appreciated and understood. Sometimes, we didn’t get this from the people around us—and that can hurt. But the beautiful truth is that we can offer this to ourselves.

In Internal Family Systems (IFS), we learn that even the parts of us carrying fear or frustration want to feel valued and seen. When we meet these parts with curiosity and care, we can say, ‘Thank you for helping me all these years, but I’m here now, and you no longer have to work so hard.’

When our parts feel understood, they trust our Self as the natural leader of our inner system. As they relax, there’s more space for us to lead with courage, compassion, and clarity.

✨ What’s one part of yourself you can meet with kindness today?

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Building self-compassion isn’t about being perfect—it’s about leading from your compassionate core Self and caring for t...
05/12/2024

Building self-compassion isn’t about being perfect—it’s about leading from your compassionate core Self and caring for the parts of you that feel wounded, fearful, or in pain.

In today’s post, we’re sharing the 6 Building Blocks of Self-Compassion to help you connect with your emotions, validate your experiences, and take small, soothing actions that reflect kindness toward yourself.

Self-compassion grows step by step. What’s one building block you’ll practice today? Let us know in the comments and take a small, meaningful step toward healing.

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05/12/2024

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by emotions like self-doubt or sadness and found yourself being harsh or ignoring how you feel? Self-compassion offers a different way—by pausing, noticing, and offering care to the parts of you that are hurting.Instead of pushing your feelings aside, take a moment to say, ‘I can feel that you’re hurting.’ Validate what you’re feeling and offer kindness, like placing your hand where it hurts and saying, ‘You’re safe with me.’These small, compassionate actions help your wounded parts feel supported and begin to heal. 💛✨ What’s one small way you can care for yourself today? Let’s reflect in the comments.

Do you treat yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a good friend in pain? Self-compassion is about responding to y...
02/12/2024

Do you treat yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a good friend in pain? Self-compassion is about responding to your own fear and pain with warmth and understanding rather than harshness or judgment.

When you lead from your compassionate core Self—the calm, curious, and caring part of you—you create the space to heal and grow.

✨ What’s one way you can treat yourself like a good friend today? Let’s reflect together in the comments!

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4 Steps to Reduce Perfectionism and Build Connection in RelationshipsRecognize Perfectionism as a Protector Part- Notice...
29/11/2024

4 Steps to Reduce Perfectionism and Build Connection in Relationships

Recognize Perfectionism as a Protector Part
- Notice if you’re holding yourself or your partner to unrelenting standards. Often, these high expectations are meant to protect us from pain, but they create pressure and distance.

Shift Focus to Vulnerability and Shared Values
- Rather than aiming for control or flawlessness, look for what you truly value in your partner. Recognizing shared values and appreciating each other’s unique qualities helps create a deeper, more authentic connection.

Practice Compassion Toward Perfectionistic Parts
- When perfectionism arises, approach it with compassion. Understand that this part of you is trying to protect you, but let it know it doesn’t need to control your interactions. Compassion creates a space for authenticity and closeness.

Embrace Each Other’s Humanity for True Intimacy
- True intimacy grows when we accept imperfections. By embracing your own and each other’s humanity, you foster an environment where both of you feel safe, valued, and connected.

Ready to shift from unrelenting standards to deeper connection?
Focus on compassion, shared values, and acceptance, and see how it transforms your relationship. Let me know if I can help.

27/11/2024

Do you ever feel like disagreements in your relationships turn into your defenses arguing with someone else’s defenses? It’s easy to get stuck focusing on differences and forget what connects you—the values you share and the things you love most about the other person.

When we lead with compassion and curiosity, we can step back from those defenses and make space to see each other’s true humanity. By focusing on what you have in common and what you admire in someone, you can create a deeper, more meaningful connection.

💬 What would it be like to focus on what you love most about someone and what you share, and work on strengthening that? Start the conversation in the comments or reach out if you’d like support in building stronger relationships.

👉 DM me or click the link in my bio to learn how we can work together to create deeper connections in your life.

“When we lead from Self, parts can relax and allow us to be in relationships without feeling we need to protect ourselve...
25/11/2024

“When we lead from Self, parts can relax and allow us to be in relationships without feeling we need to protect ourselves.” — Richard C. Schwartz, PhD

In relationships, perfectionism often acts as a protector—a part of us that believes that if we or our partner are ‘perfect,’ we’ll be safe from disappointment or criticism. However, these unrelenting standards can create pressure and distance. When we approach perfectionism with compassion and shift our focus to shared values and acceptance, we create space for genuine intimacy and connection. This week, let’s explore how reducing perfectionism and embracing vulnerability can deepen our relationships.

“Feeling resistance to change? You’re not alone. In Internal Family Systems (IFS), resistance is seen as a natural respo...
21/11/2024

“Feeling resistance to change? You’re not alone. In Internal Family Systems (IFS), resistance is seen as a natural response—a part of you working to keep you safe. 🛡️ But with Self-leadership, you can begin transforming this resistance by listening to these parts with curiosity, understanding their fears, and taking small steps forward. 🌱

Swipe to learn how self-compassion and patience can help you move through resistance and embrace change, one step at a time. Contact me to find out more.

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20/11/2024

Feeling resistance when trying to make a change? You’re not alone. Resistance often shows up as a way to protect us, keeping us from stepping into situations that feel risky or uncertain.

But as the saying goes, ‘What you resist will persist.’ Fighting it only keeps us stuck. Instead, try approaching resistance with compassion and curiosity. Ask yourself, ‘What is this resistance trying to protect me from?’ Listening to its concerns can help you take small, manageable steps forward.

True change doesn’t come from pushing through resistance—it comes from building trust with the parts of you that feel unsure. Each small step helps create confidence and opens the door to growth, one meaningful step at a time.

What’s one small step you can take today? 🌟

Sometimes change feels too hard because it seems like a huge leap from where you are to where you want to be. It can hel...
17/11/2024

Sometimes change feels too hard because it seems like a huge leap from where you are to where you want to be.

It can help to remember that you don’t have to see the whole staircase to take the first step. 🧡 Each small step builds trust within, helping you move forward with confidence.

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