17/02/2025
Funeral Etiquette for newbies.
Funerals are a very emotional occasion and it’s important, that if you have been asked to attend, you arrive on time, or even a little early. Family and friends generally gather outside the chapel or church before going in, and it’s a good time to approach the family of the deceased personally to offer your condolences.
Remember funeral operators have strict time frames for services and if you are running late, enter the chapel quietly and find a seat quickly. They do not generally delay service start times so please don’t expect them to.
If you miss out on greeting the family because of your late arrival, say hello after the service. They may even be feeling a little better then as the weight of the funeral is over. Based on your relationship with the family you may want to offer a sincere handshake or a hug along with your words of loss but respect their personal space and understand their sorrow. If you didn’t know the family that well, always introduce yourself and briefly explain how you knew their loved one, and how your relationship was important to you. Avoid saying things that may be interpreted as insincere, superficial, or triggering.
If a wake [post-funeral get-together] has been planned to follow the funeral and you are asked to attend, please try to be there. It’s a great opportunity to relax and share stories & memories. If you cannot make it, offer a genuine reason why you can’t come along, don’t just sneak away without saying anything.
It's a privilege to attend a funeral and say your final farewells. Be on time, show respect, and try to understand the grief the family will be experiencing. It will be sad but it is important.
