Consciousness Formula

06/10/2025

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲❓

You’ve survived tough times.
You’ve carried anger, frustration, and old coping patterns.
And sometimes… those patterns have caused harm to the people you love.

If you want to take control of your anger and abusive behaviour, keep reading…

Do you struggle to stop using abusive or controlling behaviours❓
Do you feel like you’re going in circles❓
Do you want to change but don’t know where to start❓

❌ Done denying the impact of your actions
❌ Done repeating cycles of anger or control
❌ Done letting shame dictate your life

The next chapter is about:
⚡ Taking responsibility without self-judgment
⚡ Learning to manage emotions without hurting others
⚡ Building trust, respect, and stronger connections

When you face the truth and commit to change, you don’t just stop harming those you love — you create deeper, healthier, and more meaningful relationships.

💬 Ready to take the first step❓
👉🏽 Send me a message

30/09/2025

Ever wonder why some relationships flow with ease… while others feel like a constant push and pull❓

The answer often lies in “Attachment Styles.”

Here’s a quick breakdown:

🔹 Secure – Comfortable with both closeness and independence.
🔹 Anxious – Craves reassurance, fears abandonment.
🔹 Avoidant – Pulls away from intimacy, values space over vulnerability.
🔹 Disorganized – A mix of both: “Come close… but not too close.”

✨ What matters most: attachment styles aren’t fixed.
With self-awareness (often therapy/ personal development ), people can shift toward more secure patterns of connection.

In my work, I often see that once people work through the pain that they suffered and understand their attachment style, they begin to:
• Communicate with greater clarity
• Build healthier boundaries
• Strengthen both personal and professional relationships

So let me ask you:
Which attachment style do you notice most around you, at work, in friendships, or within intimate relationship ❓

15/09/2025

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲.
Every day, you have a choice:
Will you let your mind stay on autopilot, or will you take charge of how you want your day to unfold❓

Most of us live out patterns from the past. If you repeat the same routines while expecting change, nothing will shift, your life will keep running in the same loop.

True change requires more. It begins when you think differently, act differently, and choose to respond in ways that reflect the future you want.

When you commit to new thoughts and behaviours, you’re not just breaking habits, you’re building a new version of yourself. That’s how real transformation happens.

Don’t just survive

☀️Rise & Thrive💙

14/09/2025

13/09/2025

08/09/2025

Do you feel stuck at times, held back by fear or anxiety, yet know deep down you’re capable of so much more❓

Fear is one of the most common barriers that prevents us from living fully. Neuroscience shows that fear activates the brain’s amygdala, triggering a fight–flight–freeze response. While this is useful for survival, it often holds us back in situations where there is no real danger.

Here are five evidence-based ways to work with fear and move forward with courage:

1. Most fears never happen.
Studies suggest that the majority of worries we create in our minds never come true. Research on worry shows that around 85–90% of feared outcomes don’t occur. Remind yourself: fear is often a story, not a fact.

2. If it does happen, you can cope.
Psychological research highlights our capacity for resilience, the ability to adapt, recover, and even grow through adversity. When challenges arise, trust in your ability to learn and adapt rather than assuming the worst.

3. Look for the lesson.
Reframing situations can reduce fear and anxiety. Instead of focusing on being a victim of circumstances, ask:
- What can I learn from this❓
- How can this help me grow❓

4. Growth comes from exposure.
Avoiding fear reinforces it, while exposure (gradually facing what we fear) helps reduce its intensity over time. Many therapeutic approaches use this principle to help people build confidence and rewire their fear response.

5. Fear can guide you toward meaning.
Positive psychology suggests that discomfort often signals areas of growth. By moving through fear, people report greater self-awareness, stronger relationships, and deeper fulfilment.

Fear is not your enemy, it’s your teacher, guiding you back to your own strength, growth, and purpose.

01/09/2025

I feel so blessed to call Australia my home.

Australia is where I’ve built my life, and I carry deep respect and gratitude for the First Nations people who have cared for and protected this land for over 65,000 years. Their strength, wisdom, and resilience inspire me every day.

Seeing recent clips of people from 31st August march being violent, destroying the Aboriginal flag, and even attacking others has shaken me.

This is not okay. To see it disrespected with such hatred is painful and unacceptable.

This land was never ceded. Always was, always will be Aboriginal land.

It’s unbelievable that some people are still saying this wasn’t a racist march, when the speaker was a Neo-Nazi leader and the crowd attacked Aboriginal people and their flag.

May we continue to stand together with love, respect, and courage for justice, for healing, and for a future where every culture is honoured and every person feels safe.

31/08/2025

31/08/2025

𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐣𝐚𝐢𝐥.

It was one of the worst days of my life.

As many of you know, I’m Tamil, from a minority group in Sri Lanka. I grew up in a war zone during a civil war that lasted over 3 decades.

My family and I were displaced from our home town, but I was arrested multiple times by the police under suspicion of being a Tamil Tiger.

They made false allegations, beat me up, and forced me to sign a statement written in Sinhala, a language I didn’t even understand. When I questioned it, an officer beat me again and threatened me in ways that terrified me as a 17-year-old boy.

I was locked away, broken inside, hungry, unwashed, and traumatised.
Then I was handcuffed and taken to jail.

I’ll never forget seeing my father visit me. His eyes were filled with tears, only the second time in my life I had ever seen him cry.

Eventually, through bribes, I was released… but the police kept coming back for me. My father knew if I stayed, I might not survive.

One night he told me: “You’ll be flying to Australia tonight. We don’t want to lose you.”

I could barely speak English, had no idea what life would look like, but the next day I landed in Melbourne. After 3 months in detention, I was released with permanent residency.

Looking back, I can see that was one of my rock bottoms.

What turned everything around❓

It wasn’t overnight.
I stopped doing “patchwork” and started doing the real work.
I worked with professionals.
I learned powerful tools and strategies.
And over 15+ years, I built what is now my 4 Pillar Signature System.

It’s for anyone who feels stuck, blocked, or living in chaos… and is ready to finally step into joy, fulfilment, and purpose.

If this speaks to you, send me a message ❤️

28/08/2025

27/08/2025

20/08/2025

𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗱𝘂𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗠𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗼 𝗠𝘆 𝗠𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗗𝗮𝘆

Never in my life did I imagine I have to do this, introduce myself to my mother, almost every day.

The very first time when she couldn’t recognise me, I broke down and cried uncontrollably.

Some days she insists on going “home.” I know it’s the dementia, but my emotions take over. I lose patience, raise my voice, and then feel crushed with guilt and shame for speaking harshly to my mother.

Since then, I’ve spent more time learning, seeking expert advice, and reflecting on my own inner world - my emotions and reactions.

I began to notice that when my mother said:
“𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒐 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆,” what I actually heard inside was, “𝑰 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖, 𝑰’𝒅 𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒃𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒆𝒍𝒔𝒆.”

When she became upset with me, I felt it as, “𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒎𝒆 𝒆𝒏𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆.”

When she refused food or medicine, I heard it as, “𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒔𝒐𝒏.”

👉🏽 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗺𝗲, 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝘂𝗻𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝘀.

When my mother is unsettled, confused or emotionally attacks me, I learned to pause. It allows me to lend her my calm, instead of my frustration. I empathise and respond with playfulness and humour.

This journey, as painful as it can be, feels like one of the most profound spiritual sadhanas (practices) of my life. It is teaching me patience, humility, compassion, and the importance of holding my mother’s dignity above everything else.

I am still learning. But if you’re caring for a loved one and find yourself triggered, please know, you are not alone. My heart goes out to you. This may also be an invitation for you, as it has been for me, to begin healing the parts of yourself that are asking for love and attention. 💙

☀️Rise & Thrive💙