14/02/2024
Love may not always be in the air in the traditional sense for neurospicy people. If you are neurodiverse yourself, or are the emotional support human for a neurodiverse person, here is a quick guide on how expression of affection, love and acceptance may look.
INFO DUMPING: Ever been regaled with a riveting lecture on the history of paperclips or the mating habits of tardigrades? Congratulations, you've experienced the phenomenon known as info dumping! When your neurodivergent person gets on a roll, sit back, relax, and prepare to become an unwitting expert on the most obscure topics.
PARELLEL PLAY: Who says you need constant chatter to enjoy each other's company? Neurodivergent pals excel at parallel play, effortlessly engaging in separate activities while still basking in the warm glow of companionship. It's like having a silent disco for the soul.
SUPPORT SWAPPING: For some reason, neurodivergent people can go the extra mile for a friend in any activity you can name but struggle to do it for themselves. A nice little work around is trading tasks. If you love making phone calls for appointments but struggle to tidy the dining room table - swap tasks with a friend (this can also be helped with Body Doubling - simply having a friend be present while you do tasks).
CRUSH MY SOUL BACK INTO MY BODY: Feeling overwhelmed? Enter the realm of deep pressure therapy, where hugs aren't just hugsâthey're cozy cocoons of comfort that cocoon you in a blanket of calm. Whether it's a bear hug or a weighted blanket snuggle, neurodivergent buddies know just how to apply the perfect amount of pressure to soothe your soul.
PENGUIN PEBBLING: Picture this: you're strolling along a sandy beach, waves crashing, seagulls serenading, when suddenly, you spot itâa rock so perfectly imperfect, it practically sings your name. That, my friends, is the neurodivergent approach to gift giving summed up in four simple words: "I found the perfect rock.â.
This is just a quick glimpse into the wonderfully quirky world of neurodivergent love languages. Embrace the eccentricities and cherish the idiosyncrasies.