20/03/2026
It’s an interesting thing Trust … it’s something that can only be gained by giving it … it is gained through credibility + reliability +intimacy ( not the physical kind ) and it is steered by self orientation. If we don’t know who we are and what we stand for , what we value and believe….trust is hard to find … because if we don’t inherently trust ourselves, how can we find it in others?
I spent years not trusting myself … chipping away at my self esteem and doubting my abilities… until one day I just got so sick of the voice in my head that constantly tore shreds off my self worth that my deepest inner soul couldn’t take it any more. I was a hypocrite, teaching my students about self esteem and self worth and allowing myself to take the constant beating that voice in my head kept dishing out… for so long I stopped listening to the deep and quiet voice of my soul that would rise up and defend me from all the noise, I didn’t trust it … why ? Experience has dealt me cards that at the time I believed asked me to stay quiet, not to listen to that authentic and courageous energy inside because that was not acceptable … society told me no, that part of me doesn’t belong here , that strength in me wasn’t good enough, who do you think you are ? So for a long time I ignored it and tried to be who people
expected me to be , I lost trust in the deep soulful voice within. And then , the world whom I had built my trust in , collapsed, everything that I had ever done to meet those expectations meant nothing. I only had myself , and I had to dig myself out of the hole that I had allowed myself to be put in, and it forced me to get out of my head and I to my body , when I reconnected with my body I began to hear my soul speaking , and I have never looked back, and never felt better , never had a better relationship with myself or those around me . When I stood up for what I believed in because I trusted a myself , the world I was living in crumbled and opened the door to something so much better . A place where I can now be exactly who I am and trust myself and those around me.
So how do we build self trust?
🔹commit to building your relationship with yourself 🔹value long term relationships that are built around deep understanding and acceptance over occupational or recreational similarities 🔹be honest with yourself, welcome truth, and be prepared to hear it🔹honour your commitments, first to yourself and then to others, 🔹accept that ok to say no if it doesn’t align with your desires or purpose 🔹communicate effectively, openly, honestly, say what is true, and be kind with your words 🔹be transparent, don’t t hide things out of fear of judgement 🔹understand it is not your responsibility to save others , be there for them, support them, but they have to show up for themselves 🔹stand up for what is right, use your voice and act for what aligns with your core values and beliefs 🔹be compassionate, to yourself and others, care about them and yourself 🔹be passionate about everything that lights you up 🔹pay it forward, be helpful where you can, take initiative 🔹be courageous enough to be vulnerable, it is your superpower so feel the fear and do it anyway…
Just know that it takes practice, just because you fail once does mean it can’t happen. Start building trust in yourself first and the rest will follow.
