30/03/2025
Thanks the_autistic_senco for this important information. So critical to many of the people we work with is the concept of consent. Understanding consent from a young age is a protective factor. Simple actions such as knocking on your child’s door then waiting for their consent before entering models this behaviour from a young age. While this information is relevant to consent for sexual encounters it is also essential to provide information to anyone working with a person with a disability. This video is a simple analogy to understand gaining consent eg before providing personal care, before putting food or a toothbrush in someone’s mouth. It’s a basic human right and I haven’t met one person yet who can’t communicate their consent.
The autistic SENCO writes “Consent: Why “Would You Like a Cup of Tea?” is One of the Best Conversations We Can Have with Young People :-
Consent can feel like a tricky topic to discuss …. but in reality, it’s incredibly simple.…….That’s why the video “Would You Like a Cup of Tea?” is such a brilliant resource. It strips away all the noise and gets straight to the point: consent is about clear, enthusiastic agreement nothing less….The video explains consent using a simple analogy: offering someone a cup of tea. It goes like this:
• If you offer someone a cup of tea and they say yes, great—make them a cup of tea.
• If they say no, don’t make them tea.
• If they say yes but then change their mind, stop making the tea.
• If they are unconscious, they cannot drink tea—so don’t try to give it to them.
It’s clear, logical, and impossible to argue with. The same rules apply to physical and sexual consent.……. Why This Message is So Important Too often, we see cases where lack of resistance is mistaken for consent. Where people feel pressured into saying yes because they don’t want to seem rude. Where someone changes their mind but feels like they’ve already committed.
The Cup of Tea video teaches ….that real consent is enthusiastic, ongoing, and freely given. Anything less than an active yes—is a no.
Consent Education is Non-Negotiable….Consent isn’t just about sex—it’s about respect. It applies to hugs, personal space, and relationships of all kinds.…….consent is as simple as a cup of tea. Because once you see it that way, there are no grey areas—only a clear, mutual yes, or a definite no.
Here is the video: https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8?feature=shared”
Please have a look and begin implementing consent throughout the day. If in doubt how a person expresses this, ask them how they say yes or no or ask a familiar communication partner. Everyone has a right to say ‘no’. Everyone has a right to informed consent too.