22/09/2025
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Co-Regulation Comes Before Self-Regulation
Children can't calm themselves until they've learned how to borrow your calm first. Their self-regulation systems are still under construction, and co-regulation lays the foundation. Your nervous system becomes their training ground.
When you offer steady presence, you activate their parasympathetic nervous system (the part that helps them return to calm).
Real-life examples:
You sit beside them and breathe slow → their breathing starts to match yours.
You name what they're feeling → their brain feels safe enough to let the feeling move.
You offer a safe lap or a soft voice → they learn safety lives in connection.
You share calm in the chaos → they feel secure enough to settle.
Regulation isn’t taught with words; it’s felt in your presence.
Try this today:
Protect your calm in a tricky moment. Take a breath, regulate, and practice co-regulation before correction.
In the Mind Bubbles program, we teach you how to respond with calm, connection, and clarity - even when big feelings show up and life gets messy.
Because they’re not just listening. They’re becoming.