Growing Gently Psychology

Growing Gently Psychology Rebecca Cefai | Psychologist

A gentle approach to parenting and development in the early years

Please note Rebecca is unable to offer personalised advice or counselling services via Facebook or Instagram.

Yesterday was the Community Preschool Day of Action (Oops, I am a day late!) The photo is of me standing in front of the...
15/10/2025

Yesterday was the Community Preschool Day of Action (Oops, I am a day late!) The photo is of me standing in front of the amazing Blaxland Preschool but this post relates to ALL preschools.

As a psychologist working with little ones and their families, I see every day how much community preschools matter. And I don’t often post about political advocacy but this one is a no brainer.

I’ve gone into preschools and early childcare centres and have seen firsthand how stretched educators are. I have seen the genuine tears of educators who want to support the kids more but have limited resources to do so. I have seen staff numbers drop. I have seen the impact this has on the kids that attend and the lives of their families.

Preschools are under-funded. Preschool fees are being pushed onto parents. Educators are leaving. And our teachers and educators are being stretched too thin. They give so much of themselves, yet their pay doesn’t reflect the depth of their skill, care, and responsibility.

Now, with the federal government’s recent decision to remove autism from the NDIS, even more pressure will fall on early education settings. These children will still need support and educators will be the ones providing it, without the support of an allied health team, and without the resources and funding to do so. It’s a way to save money without having to pay the people and services actually doing the work. Yes, children should be supported in their natural environments, but this can only happen with proper funding and supports so these systems can provide support and not just be traumatic for everyone involved.

Without fair funding, our beautiful community preschool model is at risk. And when educators struggle, children and families feel it too.

I stand with our community preschool teachers and educators. They deserve to be valued, supported, and fairly paid. 💕

Ever since I can remember, I have loved listening to music and songs, reading into the lyrics and creating intricate bac...
09/10/2025

Ever since I can remember, I have loved listening to music and songs, reading into the lyrics and creating intricate backstories in my own imagination. I held so many of these stories secretly, not knowing if anyone else relates to music in the same way. And what a perfect era to out myself, and what a perfect song to choose…

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This looks like a great group holiday program for neurodivergent primary school kids
27/09/2025

This looks like a great group holiday program for neurodivergent primary school kids

I am super excited to be facilitating a workshop on “Supporting Autistic & ADHD parents” at the upcoming CAPEA conferenc...
17/09/2025

I am super excited to be facilitating a workshop on “Supporting Autistic & ADHD parents” at the upcoming CAPEA conference in Newcastle this November.

I will share insights into the seemingly hidden barriers neurodivergent women face in perinatal care and parenting education. The session will offer actionable strategies to adapt content, communication, and environments to better meet diverse needs—supporting all parents to feel seen, safe, and supported.

Has your neurodivergent child been invited to a party? 🥳You got the invite but now what? 🤔 Parties can be exciting and j...
20/08/2025

Has your neurodivergent child been invited to a party? 🥳
You got the invite but now what? 🤔

Parties can be exciting and joyful for many kids, but they can also bring unique challenges for neurodivergent children.

That’s why I designed this practical guide to help parents prepare for parties in advance, so their child can feel more comfortable and supported at celebrations.

With this guide, parents can:

💚Identify possible challenges their child may face at a party.
💚Highlight the ones most relevant to their child’s needs.
💚Plan practical accommodations and strategies to use before, during, and after the event.

The download includes two Versions of the Party Planning Guide:

🌱With Accommadations Version – Provides examples of strategies and supports to help parents prepare for potential challenges at parties.

🌱Customisable Version – Leaves space for parents to add personalised strategies tailored to their child’s individual needs.

Set your child up for success and download the guide now:
https://www.growinggentlypsychology.com.au/product-page/party-planning-guide

Masking is when a child hides their true needs, feelings or behaviours to fit in or avoid negative attention and punishm...
15/08/2025

Masking is when a child hides their true needs, feelings or behaviours to fit in or avoid negative attention and punishment.

Imagine trying to hold a beach ball under the water. At first, it’s manageable — you can push it down and keep it hidden. But it takes constant effort, and your arms get tired. The longer you hold it under, the more energy it drains. Eventually, the ball will slip out of your hands and shoot to the surface with force.

For many children, especially those who are neurodivergent, masking at school can be exhausting.

By the time they get home, they may “let the beach ball go,” which is why parents often see more emotional outbursts or shutdowns after the school day.

If they hold the ball under for too long, day after day, the ball might pop out at school too, or the child will avoid going to school because holding the ball under water is no longer manageable.

💚Comment below for a PDF printable version to share with your child’s school.

I forgot to take photos of my set up when presenting at the Blaxland Preschool Parent Information Night, so here’s a lit...
11/08/2025

I forgot to take photos of my set up when presenting at the Blaxland Preschool Parent Information Night, so here’s a little peak of the workbook parents took home on the night! Complete with the main graphics I used in my presentation, with space to take notes, plus links to extra reading and videos for those who want more!

How awesome is Blaxland Preschool for making this happen!! 😍

I am sharing a new pic of my therapy room which has my new desk in it plus a few things moved around. I’m sharing this b...
03/07/2025

I am sharing a new pic of my therapy room which has my new desk in it plus a few things moved around. I’m sharing this because I know that particularly for my autistic clients unexpected changes can be anxiety provoking and tricky.

When a child resists, we call it avoidance.But maybe they’ve just run out of capacity. Maybe they’ve just used up all th...
29/06/2025

When a child resists, we call it avoidance.
But maybe they’ve just run out of capacity. Maybe they’ve just used up all their “yeses” on things that don’t matter.

We’ve built highly demanding lives for children. So many expectations, even in art and play, that don’t always feel meaningful for the kids and sometimes not even for the adults enforcing them.

More kids are considered “demand avoidant,” but maybe the real question is:

💚 Why are there so many demands?

For any child, the demands can be overwhelming. Then mix them with neurodivergence… the stress increases. Mix is with PDA… and boom!

The first step in working through demand avoidance to triple check that the demand is worthy of a yes!!

29/06/2025

I’m so honoured to have some beautiful parents attend yesterday’s PDA & Picasso parent learning event.

Parent learning through:

🌱 Experimental learning.

🌱 Parallel play.

🌱 Shared experiences.

🌱 Connection.

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