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Relationship Breakdown & Divorce Coach. Wherever you are on your journey, Kara is here to help you transform breakdowns into breakthroughs.

Having a background as a family and divorce lawyer, Kara holds degrees in Law and Psychological Science, is certified in the Conscious Uncoupling™ process and training in Collaborative Family Law Facilitation Kara Ockendon of Soul Healing is a Relationship, Separation & Divorce Coach based in Brisbane, Australia, specialising in conscious relating and uncoupling. Having a background as a family and divorce lawyer, she holds degrees in Law and Psychological Science and is certified in the Conscious Uncoupling™ process. Driven by a passion for holistic wellness and conscious living, Kara empowers individuals to create thriving lives and fulfilling relationships. She offers a unique approach in her 1:1 and group coaching, women’s circles, and workshops, by leveraging her professional and personal experiences with high-conflict divorce and family trauma. Kara’s process integrates mind, body, and purpose together with practical support and guidance, fostering lasting transformation that allows you to:

- Break free from negative and unhealthy relationship patterns;

- Navigate relationship breakdowns with more clarity and ease;

- Move through separation/divorce with more peace and less cost;

- Create deeply fulfilling relationships rooted in deep love, compassion and connection; and

- Transition from merely surviving to thriving in life. Kara is dedicated to supporting individuals across all relationship dynamics and at all stages of relationship breakdown, from contemplation to well post-separation/divorce. and create healthy, loving, and secure relationships and a life in which you thrive. Book your free discovery call today to start thriving as the remarkable soul you are! Book Here: https://KaraOckendon.as.me/?appointmentType=56825266

04/09/2025

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02/09/2025

Cheaters are bad people, bad parents, deserve less of the property and less time with children?

07/08/2025

For decades, post-separation parenting has followed a familiar pathway: children living primarily in one home, or rotating between two on some agreed or Court Ordered schedule.

Now I am not saying that way of doing co-parenting is wrong or harmful, it is the arrangement I both lived as a child and now have for our son after all.

However, for many children they can experience distress through lack of stability and through a sense of not having a true home.
And as separation and divorce become more common, and as children who once lived between two homes grow up to become parents themselves, more and more of us are reflecting:
Is there a better way?

Recently, I had the privilege of sitting down with the incredible Jo Goddard. A women’s wellbeing coach, speaker, founder of ImHER Women’s Wellbeing, and passionate advocate for child-focused separation.

Jo is also a Mum who knows this terrain first-hand. She and her ex-partner have been Bird Nesting, a post-separation parenting arrangement where the children stay in the family home, and it’s the parents who rotate in and out.

Yep. You read that right. The parents actually take on the burden, not the children!

It’s a powerful alternative to the traditional two-home model, and Jo has recently begun sharing her lived experience publicly through her Instagram page Living My Nest Life.

Jo so generously shared her experience in our conversation where we explored:

- What Bird Nesting actually is;
- The emotional, practical, and financial considerations;
- The challenges Jo and her co-parent have faced (and how they overcame them); and
- And why it just might be a game-changer for some families.

If you're currently navigating separation or supporting someone who is and you're curious about conscious, child-centred alternatives this is one you won’t want to miss. 👇👇👇

And if you’ve tried Bird Nesting (or are considering it), I’d love to hear your experience in the comments below.

05/08/2025

"Just admit you still love him and get on with it..."

A comment left on a TikTok I posted a while ago.

I remember reading it and feeling perplexed because of the assumption behind it. They meant “in love” and what a wild projection that is.

It baffles me that in this day and age, so many people still struggle to understand what love truly is and that it can only exist during a committed marriage.

There’s this bizarre societal narrative that once a romantic relationship ends, we must shut off the love and care. Bury it. Maybe even turn it into resentment or hate, just to avoid sitting with the pain of heartbreak or grief.

That has never sat right with me.

Especially when children are involved... The idea that this person who for many may have been your best friend, your greatest support, and a central part of your family, must now be treated like a stranger or an enemy? That’s even more baffling.

As if co-parenting well, or still caring deeply, means you must want the romance back or that you are clingy on in some unhealthy way.
As if loving someone in their humanness is only valid through the lens of romantic partnership, immediate family or ordinary friendship.

I don’t subscribe to that idea. I never have.

Maybe because I saw the damage that narrative caused in my own childhood. The toxicity and confusion that unfolds when separation becomes war and the profound damage it does to all, especially children.

For me, love doesn’t end when a relationship transforms. It evolves.
And so the commentor was not completely wrong, because yes, I do still love my son’s father. I also still love my first husband and even my first love.

Not with attachment or longing.

But unconditionally with reverence, respect and gratitude. The kind of love that honours what was and allows space for what now is.
Because I chose them as my family and I continue to make that choice.

And if we want to avoid repeating the mistakes of the 80s, 90s and even early 2000s divorce era, we must let the definition of family evolve.

That’s the work I do. That’s what my son’s father and I are modelling. That’s what I support others to create, if it is safe and desirable for them to do so.

Rise or crumble.

The choice is yours!

31/07/2025

Here's the truth, co-creating a healthy bi-nuclear family has not been and is not easy for me and my son's father.

Some people assume we must have had a "good" relationship to begin with to make our bi-nuclear family work so well.

But if that were the true, we would still be together.

The reality is that we had a significant breakdown in our relationship, we had significant challenges we were confronting and our communication dynamic was pretty damn toxic.

There have been plenty of moments where things could have de-railed and we could have landed in the company of lawyers and the Court.

So whilst we might make it appear easy or like we started off on from some better foundation, the reality is that our foundation was pretty broken.

What we have today was rebuilt from the rubble, with deep inner work, and a hell of a lot of conscious choice.

Even now, we still hit bumps, old unhealthy patterns resurface and we fall into disconnect. And when that happens, we always face a choice:

1. Do we react? Do we blame, villainise, defend, withdraw, try to win, protect ourselves, and regress into old roles?

2. Or do we rise and show up? With compassion, grace, kindness and integrity? Do we step into vulnerability and curiosity? Do we stay true to our values and genuine commitment to the wellbeing of our son and family?

Time and time again, we choose the second path.

But let's be honest, choosing this path is not always easy.... Especially when one of us is stuck in option 1 and not showing up as our best self.

Still, the choice remains. Every Single Time.

Because conflict and breakdowns are normal. And mistakes are human.

The hard truth is that if you want different results, you have have to make the conscious choice to work through those breakdowns.

Yes WORK... it takes commitment to do the work in yourself. To emotionally regulate through your triggers, to take radical ownership, to stop projecting and start consciously co-creating!

So no, it is not easy. But yes it is possible and yes it is worth it!

30/07/2025

"My biggest win is a great working relationship with my ex-wife and my takeaway is that is is my new actions, that are the reason why" ~ Male

"I have witnessed so much growth in my relationship which I did not expect. I Iearned that I was adding to our problems by not taking ownership" ~ Female

"I am truly grateful to you Kara for this program, you have helped so much. I have been telling my friends to come and see you" ~ Male

"Our communication is less reactive and more responsive. We give each other much needed space and yet feel comfortable to assert our needs." ~ Female

"I am more in control of emotions, allowing me to act in align with my own values" ~ Male

"I find myself responding with love to myself and others, rather than reacting from fear and I am feeling excited about the things in the future I can create." ~ Female

"Incredible value, worth more than I paid" ~ Male

"Cycle Breakers was truly transformation for me far beyond what I expected. I realised how I was unintentionally contributing to the challenges with my spouse" ~ Female

"The value of this program is unmeasurable, a conversation I had with my ex-wife due to this program saved me at least $10,000s in lawyers and saved my friendship with my ex-wife and possibly the relationship as a whole" ~ Male

These are the words of various men and women from my recent intake of Cycle Breakers - my conscious and collaborative uncoupling program.

Men, women and couples participated at various junctures of their journey from contemplation phase, early separation and beyond.
And the good news is, that my next intake is just around the corner.

So if you or someone you know, might benefit from results like this, send me a DM or register your interest 👇👇👇

23/07/2025

I just had an amazing conversation with Jo Goddard from Living My Nest Life and I'mHer Women's Wellbeing about her families transition to expereince of bird nesting for the latest episode of Thriving Divorce and Separation.

I am forever in awe of this woman and what she and her children's father have co-created and I am just so grateful she has shared her story for others to learn from.

Let me know if you would like to be notified when the it's ready for watching/listening!

18/07/2025

Just got off the MIB International Coffee chat, so lovely to meet some lovely women across the world and reconnect with Frances Scadden.

We spoke about our number business tools - for me it has to be my Phone, hands down.

And how we network outside of social media - for me that is networking, attending social events and workshops.

Definitely recommend this short, but impactful networking meet for my fellow Mum's in Business to expand your reach outside the Country :)

And thanks to Stacy Brown for hosting (if anyone is connected to her, please tag)

15/07/2025

So here's 3 Cold Hard Truths About Separation and Divorce that came into my awareness today and the MIB networking event facilitated by Jo Denning and with the share wisdom of Georgina Dawkins

Want to learn more truths and how to combat them? Send me a DM and let's chat!

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