Successful Relationships - Vivian Baruch

20/02/2026

Attachment styles: One way to understand how you relate.

You and your partner most probably have different attachment styles. Couples can be together for many years and still not know what the other needs and wants in many different areas of life and relationship.

Successful Relationships February newsletter out now.

You & your partner probably have different attachment styles. Couples can be together for many years & still not know much about the other.

24/12/2025

My article is published in the Australian Counselling Research Journal. Below is a brief look:

I entered the behavioural health field back in 1981 because I genuinely wanted to help people. This article is about the path I’ve taken to figuring out when—and where—I’m actually making a difference. Decades of meta-analytic research show that psychotherapy works, with an effect size of about 0.8. What’s surprising though, is that this number hasn’t budged in more than 50 years. It doesn’t seem to change based on the problem being treated, the approach used, how experienced the therapist is, or even how complex a client’s situation may be—except in cases of severe, biologically based conditions.

Drawing on both a case study and meta-analytic research, this article makes the case that regularly using Feedback Informed Treatment (FIT) is a powerful way to improve both outcomes and the therapeutic relationship in counselling. FIT keeps clients’ voices front and centre, offers built-in quality checks, helps catch when things might be going off track—especially for clients at risk of poorer outcomes—and supports ongoing professional growth and accountability.
https://www.acrjournal.com.au/resources/assets/journals/Volume-18-Issue-2-2025/Manuscript7%20-%20Here%20to%20help%20A%20therapists%20journey%20into%20Feedback%20Informed%20Treatment%20%20-%20FIT.pdf

22/12/2025

Good advice from Terry Real. https://www.facebook.com/reel/2041310653325211/?s=single_unit&__cft__[0]=AZYmwtGEr2WnOPg56jDfjGXD9g5wTog_SqYlV44Q_S1Eup9_Lmj4wfXmwXK1045B2edlPuzvIKPMM1TlNOzVO2yKj0A7BWRPmFabt6s0fKvla_mBrf7eFPlQX1J-04bJO2tsrXbkYap_Km-9hodmgYPrJ3scTcLtLmmWVHpQySpIZK99DzIr2j6KRswedW_nJjs&__tn__=H-R

22/12/2025

Will you help me & other Australians fight antisemitism by calling for a Commonwealth Royal Commission into the Bondi Beach terror attack?

Sign this petition to demand justice and safeguard our future, creating a nation free of hate and violence. Together, we can build stronger and more resilient communities for everyone in Australia.

Help by sending this to one other person.
https://www.change.org/p/call-for-a-commonwealth-royal-commission-into-the-bondi-beach-terror-attack?

Call for a Commonwealth Royal Commission into the Bondi Beach terror attack

17/12/2025

This is the time of year to review relationships. Two sets of feelings may be competing for your attention. First, you may be looking ahead with pleasure to the holiday season and the myriad of tasks, opportunities to connect and relationships to juggle.

On the other hand, this is also a time when feelings of loneliness, unease, and sadness about relationships come to the fore. We may feel disconnected from family and friends. We can view these uncomfortable feelings as an opportunity to review 2025 and make some decisions about the direction we hope our relationships can take for 2026.

Successful Relationships December newsletter out now.

Uncomfortable feelings are opportunities to review relationships & to decide about a new direction. Do this review in a holiday time.

18/11/2025

Let's Talk about S*x, Intimacy & Desire. A lively discussion with Jennifer Jefferies of The Present Day Wise Woman podcast.

She’s back, and we’re going there. Relationship therapist and wise woman Vivian Baruch returns to talk about the topics too many women were never taught to t...

24/10/2025

Relationships don’t come with a rulebook. In this conversation with Jennifer Jefferies on The Present Day Wise Woman Podcast, I speak about how singles can rebuild confidence, how couples can reignite intimacy, and what to do when you’re on the fence about your future together. We also dive into the wisdom of “wise women” and the power of mentorship across generations, because love, connection, and guidance are what truly hold us together.

Relationships don’t come with a rulebook. In this conversation, relationship coach and therapist Vivian Baruch shares how singles can rebuild confidence, ho...

26/09/2025

How to Protect Children from Social Media and AI - Jean Twenge with Michael Shermer.

New on the podcast: psychologist Jean Twenge on how to raise children with technology. Listen now.

25/09/2025

Why is it hard to talk about s*x? Here are six reasons why. Successful Relationships September newsletter out now.

Many people find it hard to talk about s*x. No matter how much you know about s*x, it's useless if you can't talk to your partner about s*x.

12/09/2025

Is the Honeymoon Phase a Myth? Understanding Love’s Most Romanticized Stage

The honeymoon phase might be ruining your relationship. Surprising research reveals why chasing early passion could be sabotaging your chance at lasting love.

20/07/2025

Marriage is a long conversation.

15/07/2025

In my work as a couples coach, I often hear one partner ask “Why don’t they think or feel like me? What’s wrong with them?” At the core of this confusion is the idea that your partner should think and feel the same as you.

They don’t.

Your thoughts, feelings, wants and needs are different due to many reasons – among them biological, psychological, social and cultural factors.

Successful Relationships July newsletter out now.

In my work as a couples coach, I often hear one partner ask "Why don't they think or feel like me?" Nothing's necessarily going wrong here.