17/02/2021
Anxiety in Children
A quick search revealed that a diagnosis of Anxiety in children is on the increase. The CDC report shows that in America: Depression and anxiety have increased over time. “Ever having been diagnosed with either anxiety or depression” among children aged 6–17 years increased from 5.4% in 2003 to 8% in 2007 and to 8.4% in 2011–2012. "Ever having been diagnosed with anxiety” increased from 5.5% in 2007 to 6.4% in 2011–2012.
The chart below shows the age group most likely to be affected with anxiety is the 12-17 year age group. Keep in mind this is data from the CDC in the US. Australian statistics show that Anxiety is the second most commonly diagnosed mental health condition in children, with approximately 6.9% of Children being diagnosed. The link below from Australian Institute of Health and Welfare determine that children are more likely to have anxiety when living with one parent rather than two, ie separated parents and going from house to house; and with their two original parents rather than blended families. Mental disorders were also more common in dysfunctional families where domestic violence or poor family functioning was involved than those families with good family functioning.
These high-risk groups are indicating that one aetiology is often instability and insecurity in the home or a feeling of that; I am not safe at home, or the home I was safe in has now become different and I don’t feel safe anymore. A feeling of safety and security is one of our primal needs as human beings and when that is threatened, our level of anxiety rises. Normally, it is the parents that provide these basic level needs with a home, food and love, however in times of loss or grief such as a separation, the parents are often in need of emotional support themselves and this unconsciously can be interpreted by the child as ‘I am not safe anymore’.
I honestly believe aetiology will be different for each child and they are multi-factorial, including genetic, environmental, nutritional, whether the child has grown up around abuse or domestic violence or experienced it themselves, overstimulation from technology, cyber bullying and harassment, friendship issues, school pressures with too much homework, exams and getting good grades and reduced exercise and time for play. All of these factors are part and parcel to the mixing pot of causing anxiety in our kids. Trauma and abuse for example creates hyper-vigilance and a need for keeping everything in control to feel safe and secure. This need for control is in fact a very common compensatory survival mechanism. Another aetiology which is all around us at the moment is an overall societal feeling of anxiety about an uncertain future due to climate change and now also covid.
Overall, through anxiety, our children are telling us they honestly don’t feel safe anymore.
What is the solution? Well, to keep it simple, help your kids feel safe. Be the anchor in the storm. Teach them how to let the waves of stressful situations wash over them and yet they are still tied to the ground via your anchor. I have listed some things below that I know have worked for my children. I have also included some links for helpful tips from informative health education websites. However, for me, the biggest help is being their anchor, their sounding board at the end of every day, allowing them to offload their problems and their associated feelings of those and reflecting the energy that 'everything is going to be ok, I am here for you, this is your safe house, you are ok'. Give them what they need even if they say they dont want it, is my motto.
The second biggest thing I have found of course is Homeopathy. Homeopathy's biggest power is on the mental/emotional level. It helps you to feel good within yourself so you are not so prone to those anxious thoughts. It calms your nervous system and helps you feel that everything is actually ok. It calms your fears and helps you know they are not real and just thoughts. It helps you get a good nights sleep which in turn, calms the mind. It helps you feel solid and grounded within yourself and more energised and therefore not so prone to anxious thoughts. It puts you in the driver's seat with some sort of control. This is huge for anxiety sufferers, as I mentioned, having control and knowing that they have some sense of control around their thoughts and attacks, calms them immensely. We have specific remedies for the symptoms of anxiety attacks and also the symptoms of the underlying generalised feeling of uneasiness or apprehension felt in the stomach or head. We individualise the medicine according to what each client needs.
Other helpful ideas:
• Regular exercise in fresh air
• More play/game time with the family
• Making sure their nutritional needs are meet through daily juicing, smoothies or vitamins/mineral supplements
• Mindfulness apps and meditation or time listening to calming music
• A good sleep routine each night going to bed at the same time
• Grounding their bare feet into the earth each day and making time for nature time as much as possible
• Taking up a hobby to keep their idle hands busy – gardening, biking, knitting, painting, sculpting, drawing etc
• Improving their gut health and increasing their daily dose of probiotics
• Getting a pet to connect with them such as a dog, cat or guinea pig
• Teaching them strategies to deal with a panic attack, eg in times of an attack, get them to tell you the 5-4-3-2-1, 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste
• Resilience teachings so when things do go wrong, they know it is not them and that they can move through the obstacle
• Less screen time and more human interaction time
• Most of all, more connection time with each other at the end of every day, ie connecting at the dinner table each night and not having screens on.
• Give them what they need and not what they want.
I know all of these things above are helpful in mild anxiety and I do not for a second want to make this sound trivial when severe, debilitating anxiety which may occur for your child. I know there is a place for medication to help with those cases and I am here to offer Homeopathy alongside that if need be or even as an alternative depending on you and your child's situation.
Please note, I am not a professional counsellor or medical professional. My advice comes from my own learnings in my own life and through my homeopathic clients. Always see a GP if you have a child or you yourself are having suicidal thoughts and finding it very tough. The people at HeadSpace in Nundah are wonderful for kids between the ages of 12-17 and we also have a wonderful psychologist at Soul Spectrum, Mel. Please call a hotline if you need someone to talk to immediately and please know that there is always help there when you need it, you just need to take that first step. I know how hard that first step can be, trust me, but the love is there when you do.
Give me a call anytime for homeopathic guidance, or to rebalance your energy systems in the body to help calm the anxious mind. Reiki has also been shown to be very effective in calming anxiety and for sufferers of PTSD.
References:
https://www.cdc.gov/childrensmentalhealth/data.html #:~:text=7.4%25%20of%20children%20aged%203,have%20a%20diagnosed%20behavior%20problem.&text=7.1%25%20of%20children%20aged%203,4.4%20million)%20have%20diagnosed%20anxiety.&text=3.2%25%20of%20children%20aged%203,1.9%20million)%20have%20diagnosed%20depression.
https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/children-youth/australias-children/contents/health/children-with-mental-illness
Links to helpful tips to reduce anxiety:
https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/behavioral-health-partners/bhp-blog/april-2018/5-4-3-2-1-coping-technique-for-anxiety.aspx
https://positivepsychology.com/anxiety-coping-skills/