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18/08/2025

If you notice these signs it means you or your partner could be suffering from a fear of abandonment.

If you notice these signs it means you or your partner has a fear of abandonment: Separation anxiety, re-assurance seeking behaviours, over-reacting, keeping tabs on a parnter, monitoring a parnter, insecurity or mistrust, being clingy or needy. testing the relationship, protesting behaviour, fear

10/08/2025

Healing from a toxic relationship often means letting go of the fantasy in order to recover so you can move forward. This requires coming to terms with the abuse and working through relationship patterns that keep you stuck, so you can rebuild your sense of self and heal yourself and inner child. It is important to recognize that holding onto anger and resentment is not moving on.
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02/08/2025

https://bio.site/Pathwayscounsellingperth

Nancy Carbone · As a therapist for 25 years and founder at Pathways Counselling Perth, Nancy helps her clients to address the root cause of issues by working with the underlying feelings and thoughts that drive unwanted behaviors. Her therapeutic approach focuses on helping clients reconnect with t...

27/07/2025

After relocating back to Perth we are excited to share our new website for Pathways Counselling Perth.

At Pathways Counselling Perth, we address the root cause of issues by working with the underlying feelings and thoughts that drive unwanted behaviors. Our therapeutic approach focuses on helping clients reconnect with their authentic selves through evidence-based practices.

We specialize in helping couples and individuals break free from destructive patterns and heal from attachment wounds. Our holistic approach promotes healing from the inside out, developing emotional regulation skills that overcome disruptive behaviors and create lasting positive change.

Our Services
We provide professional counselling for:

Anxiety and depression

Attachment issues

Trauma recovery

Relationship difficulties

Marriage and couples therapy

Areas of Expertise
Healing from Affairs or Betrayal Trauma
Rebuilding trust and processing emotional wounds after relationship betrayals.

Recovery from Trauma Bonding and Narcissistic Abuse
Breaking free from unhealthy relationship dynamics and rebuilding self-identity.

Navigating Attachment Styles and Personality Disorders
Understanding relationship patterns and developing healthier connections.

Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs and Self-Defeating Behaviors
Identifying and transforming negative thought patterns that restrict personal growth.

Establishing Healthy Boundaries
Learning to set appropriate limits to overcome codependent behaviors.

Addressing Relationship Challenges
Developing communication skills and resolving conflicts constructively.

Here is our website

Personalized Counselling and Psychotherapy Services for Individuals and Couples.Embrace the journey of unlocking your authentic self to find your way through life and become free from the blind spots and patterns that hold us back. Pathways Counselling Perth Welcome to Pathways Counselling Perth. We...

11/06/2025

Here is some information about trauma and healing. I found this video of one of my old supervisers from the International Masterson Institute.

Do you know the difference between covert and malignant narcissism? Did you know that it's possible to resolve a personality disorder via relationship?Are yo...

06/03/2025

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25/02/2025

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24/02/2025

Have you ever felt loyal to someone, been their biggest supporter, but the moment you expressed yourself or shared a different view you were criticised for not being right?

If you don't do things their way they end up correcting you, so you end up doing things the way they want.

It feels like you're being criticised for not getting it right. So you try to get it right, but then it will be something else you do wrong. You might be told how to behave, be judged on your appearance or feel constantly nitpicked. It feels like nothing you do is good enough.

Maybe you feel pressure to meet their expectations, which seem unrealistic. You may feel pressure to respond the way they want.

Eventually, you end up walking on eggshells in case you do or say the wrong thing. So you become hypervigilant about what you say or do. You live under constant fear of their reaction.

Perhaps you felt wrong for speaking up, and question yourself. So you are careful in what you say to avoid being wrong.

You may even feel drawn into doing what they want, because they guilt trip you or punish you.

So you feel a shell of yourself around this person and give up your own thoughts, because you feel this person knows you better than you. You tell yourself this person must be right, not trusting yourself. So you start to gaslight yourself. You back down on yourself and let this person control you. You may feel under their thumb, as if this person has some kind of psychological hold over you.

But you get backlash for not going along with them, so you give up on yourself to avoid the fight. It becomes easier not to say anything at all. It will just make things worse.

This could be your boss, who micromanages you for minor mistakes. It could be a co-worker, who gossips behind your back. Perhaps a partner picks on you or pokes fun at you. A parent might control what you think in order to keep you there.

Any time they get exposed, they feel inadequate for getting it wrong and have to protect themselves by devaluing you in order to modulate their fragile self-esteem. They may have had a harsh, critical parent who focused on what they did wrong, so they learned to be perfect to get approval.

To find out how to deal with a narcissist or recover from a narcissist contact info@counsellingservicemelbourne.com.au
Zoom sessions are avaliable within Australia.

20/02/2025

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19/02/2025

Do you betray yourself to get the love you want, only to feel abandoned, hurt, bitter or resentful when your needs are not met? Here is something that I see in my practice.
Love is what we give ourselves, and the worst betrayal is when we abandon ourselves in the pursuit of trying to get the love we want. No amount of fighting and protesting will give us what we can give ourself. Only then, we can allow others to love us in the way we need.
Healing from within allows us to accept ourselves as worthy, so we can foster relationships that are aligned with who we are, rather than settling for the breadcrumbs in relationships.
So, change starts from finding the love for oneself, rather than trying to change someone else.
When we learn how to accept what is good enough, we can create the relationship we deserve.
Instead of settling for something we don't want, we can learn to say " This does not align with me", "this does not work for me" or, this is what I am looking for in a relationship." By setting boundaries and limits on what you choose to accept, you can attract the person who is willing to align themselves with you.

18/02/2025

Clients ask me about the process of therapy.

One way to decribe this is that often therapy is a process of unlearning the patterns that became self protective coping mechanisms, which no longer serve us or our relationships.
When we start to focus on ourselves, it can feel uncertain or even scary. When we get to understand ourselves it does not always feel good, particularly if we learned that expressing ourselves was met with judgment, rejection or some form of control. We can start to feel these things and doubt ourselves or the therapist, especially if it triggers our template for relatedness. But as we work through these feelings and start to let go of what belongs to our past, our real self can emerge and awaken within and we discover who we are, rather than live according to others in order to avoid the fear of judgment, abandonment etc.
Therapy is not about getting intant gratification or adivce, it is about getting better and reclaiming yourself.

15/02/2025

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