15/04/2020
Therapy and Counselling
The core, the prize and the essence of being, is learning to like who you are - being able to validate your own value and right to exist. All egos and strategic selves are attempts to get validation from the world, to fill the hole left by our disappointments and despair.
We humans have an almost infinite capacity to astound and confound each other. There is no highway into our souls with marked-out lanes and illuminated signposts. Each journey we take into the mystery of another being is an adventure into uncharted territory.
It is one of our great existential needs – to be deeply understood by another human being. We hide so much and put up so many protective walls because we don’t feel understood – in fact we may feel that nobody can understand us. The therapist, therefore, is faced with a client who’s principal need, in this new therapeutic relationship, is to feel, deep in his or her heart, that the therapist understands or is at least making their best human effort to understand.
And this is what I attempt to do.
