10/08/2025
I get it... it can be intimidating... you've asked a stranger to be a part of your birth team, it can be strange for partners. Why do we even need her here? And believe me, I've been in many an awkward interaction, mostly when partners meet me for the first time, they're guarded. "What does she offer that I can't?"
But it's lot to ask your partner to be everything in labour.
Especially if they’ve never witnessed birth before. They will be your pillar of strength throughout and they love you more than anyone, but they also need a little (a lot) of doula-ing too! & often at the end of our doula relationship, it's the partners that are singing my biggest praises
They’ll be feeling all the things- love, excitement, protectiveness, maybe even fear.
And in the intensity of the moment, adrenaline often wipes away all those neatly remembered birth-class tips.
This is where a doula can make all the difference.
When I walk into your birth space, I’m a friendly, familiar face. I’ll pop the kettle on, quietly take in the room, and make sure your partner can breathe and simply be there with you, present, not panicked.
A doula can:
✨ Anticipate what you need before you even need it.
✨ Motion to your partner to grab the cold flannel, the birth ball, or a sip of water.
✨ Keep you both grounded, fed and hydrated.
✨ Explain what’s happening in real-time, so you both feel informed and safe.
✨ Reassure your partner that those sounds, movements, and pauses are so normal.
✨ Offer them a rescue remedy, a squeeze of the shoulder, or a moment to reset when the energy in the room is big.
Partners often love having practical things to do in labour—tasks that feel helpful and purposeful.
My job is to support both of you, so you can work as a team and look back on this day with connection, not overwhelm.
Doulas work alongside your partner, not instead of them.
Because when the room is held with care, everyone feels safer.
And the more loving support you have in birth the better.