Systemic Family Constellations Perth

02/09/2025

“Inner growth consummates (itself) by giving space to something new in us. This new is mostly something which we previously rejected, for example our own shadow. Or something which we regretted, for example a personal guilt. If I look at what I have rejected and say :”Yes, now I take you into my soul” I have grown. I don’t feel innocent anymore but I have grown."
Bert Hellinger

We are always deeply impressed by the personal courage participants bring to their process with constellation work, and with the service and compassion that they bring to each other.

The next Systemic Constellation day is coming up on Saturday September 13th.

Book here: https://www.systemicsolutions.com.au/workshops-2

13/08/2025

Every sibling grows up in a different household. Each one experiences their parents differently. Added to this is the underlying systemic (trans-generational) dynamics, which Gabor doesn't mention here.

08/08/2025

There's still time to join for the Systemic Family Constellation workshop tomorrow 9th August 9.30am to 4.30pm in Beaconsfield.

We have been doing this work for many years now, and yet every new constellation workshop is still exciting. Humans coming together to grow and to serve each others' growth is always an elevating and inspiring experience.

Are you ready?

Read the details and register here:
https://www.systemicsolutions.com.au/workshops-2

18/07/2025

Dear friends of systemic family constellations,

For the past 15 years my wife Jai Ram and I have had the privilege of offering constellation weekends predominantly in the Fremantle area. We are now introducing a new format for the way we offer these workshops.

Instead of full weekends, which we have offered in a more spread out time-frame in the past, from August onwards, we will offer single workshop days more frequently, approximately once a month in Fremantle. The Margaret River workshop weekends will continue to be 2 days.

These more frequent and regular one day workshops provide a space to experience systemic constellation work as the precise, efficient, diagnostic and healing approach it is and where people can come for a single or multiple days to set up, explore and address their issues and concerns with this modality.

Our intention is to make constellations more accessible for those for whom a whole weekend is difficult to organise time-wise or financially. We intend also for it to become an open constellation group, or constellation "clinic": a setting where this valuable approach is available on a more regular and ongoing basis and which, with time, may even develop into a fortnightly occurrence as demand grows.

You may book a single workshop day which is ideal to get an idea of how the approach works and to experience it first hand as a representative by participating in someone else’s constellation or simply just watch the processes unfold, which can also be profound.

If you want to set up your own constellation/ address your own issue, we recommend the 2 or 3 day option for a discounted price as this give you plenty of time for your own process and to bring your issues into focus. When booking a bundle of 2, you can choose from the upcoming 4 workshop dates. Or book a bundle of 3, choose from the upcoming 5 workshop dates.

Upcoming dates:
2025 - 9th August; 13th September; 18th October; 29th November
2026 - 21st February; 21st March; 2nd May
with more dates to be added.

Registrations are open.
Follow the link in the comments.

Or read more about this approach here:
https://www.systemicsolutions.com.au/systemic-family-constellations

We hope to see you at a constellation day soon.

Kind regards,
Beant & Jai Ram

17/07/2025

the brain repairs itself by reaching out…

09/05/2025

“Time heals all wounds” might be true eventually. In the case of trauma however, the effects might ripple through families for generations as epigenetic research shows. Systemic Constellations are a way to bring these dynamics to light and can help to resolve them and restore a natural sense of balance, order and peace.

Adverse experiences can change future generations through epigenetic pathways

08/04/2025

Family loyalty, often unconscious, can have many consequences.

Join us in Margaret River on 3rd and 4th May to shed light on this and other dynamics in your family system and to find greater freedom in your choices.

https://www.systemicsolutions.com.au/constellation-workshop-3rd-4th-may-2025

"Strong, but often hidden, ties may exist between those who have an advantage but have a secret desire to share the fate of those with a disadvantage. Healthy children, for example, may want to become like their sick parents, and innocent later family members may want to become like guilty parents or ancestors. On some level, the healthy ones feel responsible for the sick ones, the innocent ones for the guilty ones, the happy ones for the unhappy ones, and the living for the dead.

Thus, those with an advantage over others are often willing to risk – and lose – their health, innocence, and happiness and life for the health, innocence, happiness and life of others. They hope that by renouncing their own happiness and their own lives they may save the lives and happiness of others. Often, they even hope that through their sacrifice they can regain and restore the life and happiness of other family members, even when those people are long gone.

This loyalty among the members of the family and kinship manifests as a need for systemic balance between the advantages enjoyed by some and the disadvantages suffered by others, between the innocence and happiness of some and the guilt and misfortune of others, between the health of some and the illness of others, and between someone’s life and another’s death.

It is this systemic urge for balance that leads one member of the group to court misfortune when another is suffering, or that tempts one person into illness or misfortune when another is ill or guilty, or that makes someone long for death when a close member of the system dies.

Thus, within this confined community of fate, loyalty and the need for balance and compensation bring about participation in the guilt and illness and fate and death of others. It leads to attempts to pay for someone's well-being with one's own misfortune, for someone else's health with one's own illness, for someone else's innocence with one’s own guilt, and someone else's life through one's own death.”

Bert Hellinger, What causes Illness in Families and What Heals
Sunday contemplations 2015-40

19/03/2025

The underlying dynamics of our family systems can affect our lives into adulthood in a multitude of ways. As Beant says, we put things in our invisible back-pack as children, and then we have them.

Systemic Family Constellations are a place to finally unpack the backpack, feel lighter, become more fully adult.

As Jeff said ..
“…to realize how much emotional baggage I carried around with me for the last 30 years, to be able to give it back to my parents and to experience how they took it back happily was a life defining moment for me. Since then I have felt tonnes lighter.”

To read more about this amazing approach - https://www.systemicsolutions.com.au/systemic-family-constellations

And to book the Margaret River workshop - https://www.systemicsolutions.com.au/constellation-workshop-3rd-4th-may-2025

Early birds till 29th March. Save $100.

13/02/2025

Announcing ...

The February 15th & 16th systemic family constellation workshop has been postponed until March 15th & 16th.

Join us for this incredible work over 2 days.

https://www.systemicsolutions.com.au/constellation-workshop-15th-16th-mar-25

17/12/2024

“The family group ‘re-members’ the excluded, the ignored, the forgotten, the unrecognized, the dead. When a legitimate member of the group is shut out, someone is a later generation must compensate for the injustice by suffering a similar injustice. The persons drafted for this service don’t choose their fate. In fact, they usually don’t even notice what’s happening and can’t defend themselves against it. They relive the fate of the excluded person, and recreate the person’s experience, complete with the guilt, the innocence, and all the other feelings that belong to that experience.”
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Bert Hellinger with Gunthard Weber and Hunter Beaumont, Loves Hidden Symmetry: What Makes Love Work in Relationships, (1998), 164

03/12/2024

“A child who takes care of a parent often forges a lifelong pattern of overextension and creates a blueprint for habitually feeling overwhelmed." Mark Wollyn, It Didn't Start with You

Systemic family constellation work reveals a set of universal principles, or natural laws, that govern all complex living systems.
One of these "orders" is that parents give and children take.
A "violation" of this order, in which the child feels responsible for a parent, will have consequences for that person's whole life.

Constellation work is at heart about restoring natural order so that the love can flow freely and life can work out well.

02/10/2024

How do constellations work and what is "THE KNOWING FIELD"?

At the heart of Systemic Family Constellations we look at individuals and their problems, struggles and illnesses as an expression of something which isn’t solely insular and therefore can’t be resolved in isolation. Furthermore, this work sees family members as part of a family system, or in the particular terminology we use in constellation work, as part of a family field.

These fields are not just unique to families but can also be observed in other social groups like organisations, political or religious groups, even nations. They work like an underlying, embedding fabric through which we are connected with our social groups and relate in space but also through time. These fields hold important information which through constellation work becomes accessible. It is referred to as “the knowing field”. Far from being new-age or esoteric, it is very grounded and tangible. Its profundity is immediate. The information it generates is a very precise representation not of what we think is, but of what really is. This has been confirmed in over 30 years of hundreds of thousands of constellations worldwide.

What is revealed is how we are all connected by deep bonds of hidden loyalty and love. However these bonds of loyalty and love can also entangle and burden us. Where members of our family are excluded, the systemic order is violated or the balance of giving and taking is not kept, the family field responds, sometimes even “skipping” a generation in between. Often younger members of a family ie. children or grandchildren subconsciously then seem to try to bring balance back to the family system out of blind love. Often this can be a deeper reason for people not embracing life, repeating dysfunctional relationship patterns, subconscious self-sabotage or suffering from a whole number of mental health conditions or even serious illnesses, often ones which don’t seem to respond to traditional medical treatments.

Systemic Family Constellation work sheds light on these hidden dynamics and provides a clear and experiential pathway to re-integrate hidden and excluded aspects of ourselves, our family or any system we choose to observe, honour the given systemic order and bring a clearer sense of natural balance.

Join us for the next constellation workshop October 12th and 13th. https://www.systemicsolutions.com.au/constellation-workshop-12th-13th-october-2024