20/11/2025
You don’t have a “control problem.”
You have a safety problem.
The part of you gripping everything so tightly isn’t stubborn… She’s scared.
She doesn’t trust life, people, or the unknown yet - so she overfunctions, micromanages, and stays five steps ahead to survive.
But here’s the shadow truth we don’t like to admit:
If you keep choosing a pattern, it gives you something.
Predictability.
Validation.
A sense of power.
An excuse to not rise.
A reason to stay small and “safe.”
When you can name the payoff, you finally get your power back.
Because you can choose something new.
A new outcome.
A new identity.
A new way of being that actually matches the life you’re craving.
This is the work of shadow and safety - not forcing yourself to let go, but understanding the part that never felt safe enough to.
Descend with me.
