16/01/2026
Once my husband said to me,
“Sometimes I feel like I have four different wives… and I never know which one I’m coming home to.”
He wasn’t being cruel. He was confused.
His nervous system couldn’t keep up with mine - and honestly, neither could I.
Some days I was soft.
Some days fiery.
Some days emotional.
Some days guarded.
And I kept trying to choose just one version of me to be “consistent.”
But I’m not meant to be one woman.
I am cyclical. Rhythmic. Seasonal.
When I stopped defending myself and started honouring my cycle + regulating my nervous system… everything shifted.
Our relationship softened.
Safety deepened.
He stopped trying to manage me and finally got to meet me.
And it allowed him to rise into his grounded masculine too.
Women are not “too much.”
We’re simply not linear.
And when we stop fighting who we are, love becomes safer, more sacred, and profoundly intimate.