09/09/2025
💫⭐️ The reluctance to accept support from others often stems from past trauma. 💔
The mindset of "I don't need anyone; I'll do it all myself" is a survival mechanism. It served as protection for your heart against neglect, abuse, betrayal, and disappointment from those who were unable or unwilling to provide support.
Whether it was a parent who abandoned you, or one who was absent due to the demands of work to provide for you, this conditioning was born from necessity.
From partners who offered physical closeness without emotional safety, to friendships and family ties that drained more than they ever replenished.
From the broken promises where you were assured “we’re in this together” only to be left alone, managing not just your struggles but theirs as well.
From every deceit and betrayal you’ve faced.
This taught you a hard lesson: that people are not always trustworthy, or perhaps, they can be trusted just up to a certain point.
Extreme independence is fundamentally a trust issue.
You learned to avoid relying on others entirely to prevent the inevitable disappointment when they fail to come through... because, inevitably, they will, right?
Perhaps this way of protecting yourself was passed down to you by generations who also endured similar wounds.
Extreme independence acts as a shield against potential heartache.
This has led to a lack of trust in others and in your ability to choose who to trust.
To trust means to have hope, and to be vulnerable.
And you've vowed, "Never again."
Yet, despite how you might showcase your independence as an ideal state of being, it often masks a heart that is wounded, scarred, and barricaded by protective walls.
These walls keep out pain but also block love.
Fortresses are for those who perceive life as a battle or expect one on the horizon.
This is a trauma response.
The silver lining? Trauma that is acknowledged is capable of being healed.
You deserve support.
You deserve true partnership.
You deserve love.
You deserve to have your heart cared for.
You deserve to be adored and cherished.
You deserve someone to say, “You rest. I’ve got this.” and genuinely follow through.
You deserve to receive.
Your worth isn’t conditional.
You don’t need to earn, prove, bargain, or plead for it.
You are worthy.
WORTHY.
Simply because you are here.
