The Dating BOSS. Kym Duncan

18/05/2023

Who needs a reminder to be soft?

It's hard when you've been hurt in the past.. To stay soft, to let people in. To trust again..
I'm here to say, being hard and closed off to love - you know what I mean.... IS NOT going to get you want. You need to be brave, to be soft. To risk it. Cause you're hurting anyway! Why not be soft and risk feeling LOVE again?...

21/09/2022

Having a great love life is near impossible when you’re broke, tired, out of shape & miserable… what are you doing about it?

13/09/2022

12 years ago.. Back in 2010 I attended an event that changed my life. I was 31yrs old, my husband had died 6 months before, I had a 2 & 4 yr old and I was grieving and didn’t want to live. The only reason I woke every day was because of those 2 little angels that needed me to keep them alive. I didn’t know if I was going to survive, let alone live. I had visited a psychologist and felt even worse every time I walked out of her office.

A few of my friends had attended “this thing” it’s hard to explain they said. But they had a sparkle on their eye and they looked alive - so that was all I needed to commit to leaving my kids with someone for 3 days and giving it a go. I wanted my eyes to sparkle and I wanted to feel alive again. Because All I saw in the mirror was a broken little girl with so much pain her eyes with no way out.

I attended this event and learnt so much more about myself, about relationships, patterns of behaviour and emotional state - all things I wasn’t expecting to learn about or even thought I needed to know! I left there feeling alive again, knowing I was going to LIVE! Knowing my kids were going to be ok 💜 we were all going to be more than ok. Honouring my husbands love and gift he gave us and finding some peace in his sudden death..

It’s been an amazing 12 years of growth, of living and experiencing life. I’m now engaged to a bloody good man 🥰 we have 4 children between us… and we are loving life, journeying through the blending of families, the challenges that come with any relationship. Communication, finances, health all areas.. and because of the commitment to ourselves - the continuing to learn and grow, we have got this 💜

I’ve been a facilitator of this event now for 10 years the experience and knowledge I’ve learnt not only from our amazing team but from the people that come to find their own peace, to let go of what’s in the way of really loving and living life! Doing “this thing” means the world to me.

I offer one on one coaching if you need help to make space and call in your life partner or maybe you’re in a relationship and need help to get on the same page, to feel understood and heard, to connect again.. I’m here for you 💜 send me a PM to organise a chat to find out how I can be of service!

Relationship Warrior Code

25/04/2022

Keep it real :)

24/04/2022

Isn't facebook the best tho....

23/04/2022

This one time.. I was on Tinder, swiping away and the first thing I saw was a dick pic?! like WTF I nearly died. Every time after that I had NO idea what I was going to see next haha..
Everyone has different expectations, people want different things. My experience on tinder was a lot of people just wanted s*x. That's not why I was there! IF that's what you want, maybe putting your dick or t**s on your profile will work wonders for you!
If that's NOT what you're looking for and you're actually hoping to meet some interesting people that might be looking for more than just a one night stand, just be clear about that. Don't swipe yes on the nice t**s, or big dick just because well? maybe a one night stand will do for now. Stop settling for less than you want! Trust me.. when you get really clear about what you REALLY WANT. You get less of the other stuff show up.

OK SO keep it real people, no filters! no catfishing.. people want to see who they might be meeting, show them the real you, no filter selfie, full body pic too!

I mean if fishing or hunting is a really big thing in your life and you want a partner that will do all those things too, maybe you could use a photo of that.. but mostly photos of your big fish are not that cool to us.

If every photo you post is with your friends drinking beer or wine I'm going to think all you do is drink and party and again if that is not what I'm looking for it's a big no no. I think most people following along on here are probably past the big party age!

And if you really want a relationship, get to know the person via msg / phone for a bit before you meet up, before you send nudes, before you get s*xual...

What's the worst pic you've ever seen? I screenshot this one because his name was Hardy.. and I can tell you now, there was nothing hard in his pic.. Maybe his friends set him up, i'm not sure. but it was pretty funny!

22/04/2022

haha.. Don't be drunk on Tinder this weekend!

21/04/2022

Lets talk dating profiles! And more specifically PHOTOS..
What sort of photos do you see that make you go YES I'm gonna swipe right on this one?!
Keep your eyes out for my next post when I talk about all the photos NOT to include in your profile!!
But for now lets focus on the good stuff. It could be because I'm also a photographer, but I think photos are really important! They tell a story, they show me, who you are, who you hang out with, what you get up to.. they even give me a hint to your personality.. You can see into the background of peoples lives in their photos! OH wow, this guy has a clean house.. or NO just no, that guys kitchen is disgusting haha..
Clear photos are important, think about whats in the background, think about if it's in focus or not! This is a reflection of you. Half the time people won't even read your write up. So it's first impressions here! Make it good.
SMILE! show a photo with a genuine smile, not just serious photos or they might think you're grumpy!
Put a photo of you all dressed up, so they see a variety, not just in your fave shorts & shirt you wear everyday! Variety variety variety! Plus it's nice to imagine getting dressed up and going out together!
Include your pets. OMG I'm a big fan of animals, so for me this was a big one. It was actually the conversation starter for my partner and me :)
Travel photos are great, another conversation starter right there! What do you do for fun? Sport / hobbies? Include these things so people can feel a connection to you and what you're in to!

Biggest takeaways?
Smile, photos of your pets are great and include photos that will start a convo!
Let me know in the comments what photos make you swipe RIGHT?!

25/03/2022

Red flags… this needs a whole post to itself.. hands up who pretends they don’t see the red flags 🚩 when you’re dating?

And have you asked yourself why you don’t address them straight away?

24/03/2022

23/03/2022

Communication.. 💯 is the make or break of a relationship!

What do you need to work on?
Speaking up?
Listening?
Noticing the feeling / emotions under the words?
Asking for what you need?
Telling them what you’re thankful for?

22/03/2022

Give this a like if you’ve ever felt like this 😂😂

It’s pretty daunting especially if you’ve come out of a long term relationship and never expected to be doing this again!