16/04/2026
Frida wandered into the counselling room and onto the couch, sighing. We are pretty sure she was trying to say, “It’s ages since you’ve bought me a bone, dry biscuits aren’t enough for this curvy girl.”
Maybe you need to ask for your needs to be met, too? If so, here are some hints:
Be Specific: “I need more help” is a bit of a mystery—try something clearer like, “Please, could you tackle the dishes on Tuesdays?”
Mix together how you feel + what’s causing it + what you need: “I feel overwhelmed when the house is messy—I’d really love some help tidying,” hits a lot softer than, “You never clean.”
Timing is everything. Aim for a calm, low-drama moment—not mid-argument or when anyone’s already frustrated.
Do a quick check-in before speaking: Try the STOP method: Stop, Take a step back, Observe, Proceed. A thoughtful pause can make all the difference.
Make Requests, Not Demands: Invite teamwork instead of issuing commands. Think “Let’s figure this out together” energy, not ultimatums.
Celebrate the Wins: When things go right, say it. Appreciation goes a long way in keeping good feelings flowing.
You matter to us x