The Gentle Counsellor

24/02/2026

Circle of Security is relevant at all ages and stages ✨

What Circle of Security offers when your child has grown up but the relationship is still growing Your 28-year-old daughter calls, upset about a work conflict. Part of you wants to jump in with solutions. Another part wonders if you should say anything at all. You love her fiercely, but navigating t...

24/01/2026

There's a moment every parent knows intimately: a child looks up, eyes bright and searching, after stacking the final block or finishing their drawing.

There’s that smile and then, almost automatically, "Good job!"

It's warm, well-intentioned, and genuinely loving. But what if that moment is really your child asking: "Do you see ME? Do I matter?"

When we shift from evaluating what our children DO to delighting in who they ARE, something beautiful happens. They stop performing for approval and start discovering their own worth.

It's not about perfect parenting. It's about presence. It's about letting your delight in your child lead the way.

Read our latest blog to discover how this simple shift transforms everyday moments: https://zurl.co/EHhI8

26/12/2025

20/12/2025

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Friendly holiday reminder 👀

These five things are not invited for the rest of 2025, and honestly, we’re better off without them all year round. 👏🫢

Follow for gentle reminders around food, body image, and ditching diet culture this holiday season and beyond ✨

05/12/2025

Time Outs may not be working the way we think they are.

When your child is having a meltdown, their brain is only focused on finding safety - not learning lessons. They can't access wisdom or logic in those big emotional moments because that part of their brain simply isn't developed yet.

Here's what we're learning: children don't learn to self-soothe alone. They learn to regulate WITH you, through your calm presence and connection.

We call this "Time In," a relationship-based approach that builds security while still providing structure.

Read the full blog to discover this brain-based alternative: https://zurl.co/rsM4E

17/11/2025

Sending much compassion to those who know this pain. 💔💔
New retreat details @ linktr.ee/natepost
I’m glad you’re here! 🫶✨💞

13/11/2025

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09/11/2025

28/10/2025

Lean how secure attachment develops with responsive presence and reflection, not perfect technique.

23/10/2025

Every single thing…..

New episode of “A Little Less Lonely” is up! Check linktr.ee/natepost for links….

I’m so glad you’re here! 🫶💞✨

08/10/2025

Every 👏 day 👏

The good days.
The hard days.
The days of smiles.
The days of tears.

When you have both everything AND nothing left to give, remember that what they need is for YOU to love them.

Love your child at every age, whether they are 2 or 15 or 37 or 55!

You don’t age out of parenthood.

16/09/2025

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