07/01/2026
What do we align to?
Our values.
These are unique and can be hard to find.
Why don’t we grow up operating from our personal values?
We are conditioned to other peoples belief systems.
So off on a journey we go, hopefully…
To find the self identity that allows us to respect ourselves, to help us carve the boundaries that hold us in our wholeness and the strength to stand on what we say.
Sure this journey starts out a little rigid, a little absolute in the name of self protection but over time with curiosity it changes. It softens.
The walls stop coming up when you’re around the right people.
You start to hold your truth as precious because it took so long to find and get to know it right out to its edges.
If you get what I’m saying i know you are one of the ones that don’t follow, you say what you mean at the cost of more perceived loss and you’re not afraid of discomfort.
Discomfort becomes welcome and it’s now better than living with a mask, holding on and causing more pain because most people would settle… but you know what you deserve.
Pain created it, repetition of hurt, being let down, not putting yourself first and making excuses to tolerate less than your worthy of which wasted your energy.
Now you know it’s easier to stay in reality.
Seeing reality over potential means you can choose.
This is safer than holding onto another persons version of how you should be, what you need to say to not be too much, how you need to shrink to keep people around…. Fu@k that.
Integrity is what aligns you faster to what you desire.
Not letting it fall away because it’s almost perfect is a story we tell ourselves to stay small.
There is no growth in comfort.
W**d the garden often.
New experiences await and you will know because you are now receiving more opportunities to be honest where you weren’t before, you have your non negotiables and you have no energy to fix or change anyone else.
You also learn to open your heart in readiness for a new experience and thats when more of the magic pours in.
The capacity changes, and the truth is honoured and not fought for.
Your environment then reflects people that can be with all of that honesty.