27/12/2025
Parents you know when you're doing a good job in parenting when your nearly teenager is not hiding what they are really up to with their friends.
Open communication filled with honesty-we have invested in a relationship where we would rather know what's really going on with interaction with peers then having lies or deceit.
Truth can be hard to hear at times but it's raw, authentic & real.
Yesterday the boys found fireworks -yes they wanted to light the fireworks! Yes that would somehow find a lighter too.
So instead of saying no you can't do that we informed them on the safe practices of lighting the fireworks.
1. Suggest an adult to be present
2.Choose an isolated spot
3.Light candlewick facing up
4.Run away fast when lit.
5.Watch from a very far distance.
Trust your child. After educating Noah then it's out of our control into accountability for their actions. You educated them on safe practices. Pointed out risk factors but at the end of the day it's their choice yes or no do I light the fireworks. Kids when you say no will do it anyway.
So picking your battles is wise, the end result for some reason the boys couldn't light the fireworks.
Yes it's definitely no at times depending on the request asked by Noah. But sometimes letting go which can be the hardest & that a strong willed boy just has to learn the hard way is very venerable parenting with love.
We all were teenagers ourselves once- did you feel like you can tell your parents anything?
I didn't as I felt I would get into trouble or be punished for telling the truth or didn't feel supported by the young person I was becoming.
I didn't have a parent relationship where there was education about crime or being aware of peer pressure. I wasn't prepared for the big bad world as a teenager.
That's why I got into trouble with two offenses of shoplifting & being accompanied with involvement with stealing a car but I was a minor so there wasn't any criminal charges officially listed under my name on record when turning 18 years old.
Open communication leads to letting kids make informed choices. Awareness and education provides understanding the consequences of making right or bad decisions wouldn't you agree?
Open discussion is the difference between understanding guidelines of what's acceptable and what's not acceptable to legally following the law with kids behaviour. Rather than hiding away from deceit and lies from parents.
Open communication leads to empowerment with educating them on teenagers subject matter.
Home is a safe space where your child can be open & honest. No lies or deceit but only honesty. An open home where kids can share stories of playful moments that had the potential to turn into danger, harm or the possible chance of minor offences.
Father's and mother's you are doing a wonderful job informing them on the risk factors, teaching them right from wrong, educating them on subject matters so they are equipped for the teenager years to come.
