23/11/2025
Don't lose another moment fixated on people you resent or cause you mental grief. In the end, your mind will form the model of what you focus on. When you fix your thoughts on what you love, you feel great. Focus on things you hate, and your attitude adopts the thoughts that feed into this hatred.
When we have conflict, in most cases we think it is because of the other person. But the conflict is inside. The other people just set it off and we react to it out of old conditioning.
Day after day, more and more medications are prescribed for depression and anxiety, assuming that these things run in our blood, when really they run in our patterns of awareness. Our bodies signal to us that we are starving for love, but since we do not speak the language of the body, we become frustrated with its communication attempts. We silence ourselves with medications and vices while our grudges grow like malignant tumours, reported violence spreads like a virus, and mood disorders continue to rise to the highest levels in recorded history. We continue to treat the symptoms, but we do not treat the problem, so the problem grows. It's like we are attempting to clean oil out of the ocean while the spill keeps flowing, and no one bothers to find the source. We just clean up the mess the best we can and accept it as a part of life. We conceal our symptoms of love deprivation with medications, and why wouldn't we? If you were asked to choose between a lifetime of pain and a lifetime of taking pills for that pain, what would you choose? Even those who, like my past self, refuse the doctor's orders will often self-medicate with illegal drugs, alcohol, food, s*x
—anything to take the edge off. The problem, then, is not with the medications, the doctors, or the medical system.
The problem is not even that we're overmedicat-ing ourselves. The real problem is that we have collectively accepted love deprivation as a normal state-just the way life is. We do not acknowledge it, so we cannot address it. We silence the symptoms while we forget the cause.
Of course, love alone will not magically cure every kind of mental and emotional health issue.
Giving a plant sunlight and water may not be enough. It might also need worms, bees, or a different climate. How-ever, without the sun, the plant cannot and will not thrive. By giving a thousand dying plants sunlight and water as a first response, we can then attend individually to those that need something else as well.
Of course, love is not the one magic pill that will fix everything forever.
Nothing is like this. But if we can find a way to tend to love deprivation s a first response, rather than an irrelevant detail or an afterthought, we will heal so much of the pain in the world that, whatever is left, we will actually have the time and resources to address.
By acknowledging and attending to love deprivation as a real cause of suffering, we will find ourselves closer than ever before to building a society that is conducive to lifelong happiness.
