30/05/2024
Part of the privileges of my work is that I get to be in touch with deep human emotions. I participate in the psychological death and rebirth and sensitively support the transformation process.
It’s a very intimate place to be in and the space can feel very sacred. The raw tears, suppressed memories, liberation of emotions, physical pains as we shed the old layers of our past.
I read a story from The Little Prince once to a person that I was supporting:
“ Of course I will hurt you. Of course you will hurt me. Of course, we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Many people come into my space to process the pains they are going through in life. Sometimes you come to realise that everyone you ever love is going to hurt you. And you will have to decide whether you are going to be okay with it. This isn’t just true of romantic relationships. The same goes for colleagues, clients, friends and families and anyone who plays a significant role in your life may be able to hurt you. But the reality behind the hurt is that the emotional pain you felt stem from intimacy. So, you will forgive people. You will accept that their clumsy humanity is a part and parcel of their love. Or you will find that you can’t forgive them, and you will move on. You will take solace in the rest of the people in your life who you have previously managed to forgive until you feel brave enough to forge a new relationship with the attendant risk of new hurt.
Often surprising reciprocation and gifts of appreciation can come from those people I met and supported in the journey and yesterday was one of those days. I felt very loved and rewarded. It feels warmed when heart touched heart.