14/04/2026
When Connection Meant Putting Yourself Last
For some children, love or safety felt conditional. Being agreeable, helpful, or emotionally undemanding became a way to stay connected.
In adult relationships, this coping pattern can show up as:
• Difficulty saying no
• Placing others’ needs ahead of your own
• Minimising your preferences or feelings
• Feeling resentful or unseen over time
What was once adaptive can later make it hard to feel known or valued.
Healthy relationships are built on mutual care, authenticity, and choice—not self silencing.
Awareness is the first step toward change.
🔗 Read the full blog here:
https://www.takescare.com.au/how-childhood-coping-patterns-show-up-in-adult-relationships
Katayoon Haghseresht
Principal Psychologist
Takes Care Specialist Centre
https://www.takescare.com.au/
🤍 Pause and gently reflect:
Where might you be putting your needs aside to preserve connection?
If this pattern feels familiar, therapy could then offer a space to explore boundaries, needs, and connection—without judgement. You can make an enquiry at Takes care Specialist centre by calling 3870 93888 to begin that conversation.