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26/09/2025

26/09/2025

Sure, you can always try harder. You can always seek to fix, improve, or excel. But where your pursuit of change is coming from matters.

When change is driven by efforting—by digging in and just trying harder to fix yourself—it rarely brings the transformation you’re longing for.

Paradoxically, it’s often when we stop trying to fix ourselves and instead begin watching ourselves, connecting with who we are at our core, that real change starts to unfold.

Please be kind to yourself today. 💙

26/09/2025

https://youtu.be/WnBp_AYNScQ

“Nobody knows what they really want for themselves.”That’s how Stephen Jenkinson begins — and from there, this conversation cuts straight into the heart of w...

29/08/2025

The parents of Adam Raine, who died by su***de in April, claim in a new lawsuit against OpenAI that the teenager used ChatGPT as his “su***de coach.”

In their complaint, Adam’s parents say that he had been using the artificial intelligence chatbot as a substitute for human companionship in his final weeks, discussing his issues with anxiety and trouble talking with his family.

“He would be here but for ChatGPT. I 100% believe that,” Matt Raine said.

In a new lawsuit filed Tuesday and shared with the “TODAY” show, the Raines claim that “ChatGPT actively helped Adam explore su***de methods.” The lawsuit names OpenAI, the company behind ChatGPT, as well as its CEO, Sam Altman, as defendants. The family’s lawsuit is the first time parents have directly accused the company of wrongful death.

A spokesperson for OpenAI said in a statement Monday that the company is "deeply saddened by Mr. Raine’s passing, and our thoughts are with his family."

Read more: nbcnews.app.link/SztK5IAf9Vb

29/08/2025

Something I've learnt from doing the podcast is that you will only ever feel a sense of connection with other's through being vulnerable. It's as simple as that.

Vulnerability is at the heart of every human connection.

Something I've learnt from doing the podcast is that you will only ever feel a sense of connection with others through being vulnerable. It's as simple as that.

26/08/2025

26/08/2025

Jim Carrey once said: Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided.

In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder of what once was. The truth is, you never truly "move on." You move with it. The love you had does not disappear; it transforms. It lingers in the echoes of laughter, in the warmth of old memories, in the silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there. And that’s okay.

Grief is not a burden to be hidden. It is not a weakness to be ashamed of. It is the deepest proof that love existed, that something beautiful once touched your life. So let yourself feel it. Let yourself mourn. Let yourself remember.

There is no timeline, no “right” way to grieve. Some days will be heavy, and some will feel lighter. Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness, while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience.

Honor your grief, for it is sacred. It is a testament to the depth of your heart. And in time, through the pain, you will find healing—not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together...✍️❤️

26/08/2025

Instead of saying, "I know what it feels like", let's say "I cannot imagine your heartbreak".
Instead of saying, "You're strong, you'll get through this, let's say " You'll hurt, and I'll be here.
Instead of saying, "You look like you're doing well, Let's say, "How are you holding up today?"
Instead of saying, "Healing takes time", let's say "Healing has no timeline".
Instead of saying, "Everything happens for a reason, let's say "This must feel so terribly senseless right now".
And when there are no words to say at all, you don't need to try and find some. Love speaks in silences too.
~ 'Words' by Ullie-Kaye✍️
~ Art by Jennifer Yoswa❤️

13/08/2025

09/08/2025

Why would it feel safer for a child to internalize their anger than to feel it? How does anger turned inward result in chronic shame?

In this week’s edition of our Working with Complex Trauma newsletter, hosted on LinkedIn, we explore how early survival adaptations—like redirecting anger inward—can lay the foundation for chronic shame, self-rejection, and even self-hatred later in life.

📰 Origins of Chronic Shame: How We Learn to See Ourselves as the Problem

📬 Our Working with Complex Trauma newsletter comes out weekly on LinkedIn, where we explore key themes from the NARM approach for working with developmental trauma.

👉 You can follow along and subscribe to Working with Complex Trauma here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/origins-chronic-shame-how-we-learn-see-ourselves-y6q6e

09/08/2025

Helping relationships like therapy and coaching shouldn’t be about an “expert” fixing the client who’s “broken.” They should be about being supported in a process of exploring your inner world.

When you work with a NARM practitioner, the goal isn’t to analyze you or give you advice. It’s to support you in reconnecting with your agency, choice, and capacity for healing—because the power for change lives within you, not outside of you.

If you're ready to get started with a NARM therapist, coach, or practitioner today, explore your options at narmtraining.com.

09/08/2025

“Love Letter from the Afterlife”
by Andrea Gibson
13/08/19975 - 14/07/2025