24/12/2024
I have met so many families this year in my role as Celebrant at Funeral, Celebration of Life and Memorial Services. Some circumstances have been understandable though still difficult and for others - well there is just “no words” …. Just a lot of pain.
I know that for some, the thought of being able to “heal” is a concept they cannot contemplate at this time. To you, I send strength and love.
Others may find my “Recipe for a Healing Christmas & Holiday Season” that I wrote a couple of weeks ago, a source of comfort and inspiration.
Recipe for a Healing Christmas & Holiday Seasons (c)
• 1 cup of cherished memories
• 2 tablespoons of gratitude for shared moments
• 1 giant handful of courage to face the day
• 1 generous handful of love from family and friends
• 1 teaspoon of a meaningful tradition
• A cup of self compassion & hope for the future.
Instructions:
1. Begin by reflecting on the special times you shared with your loved
one. Let the warmth of those memories fill your heart. Honour the emotions stirring within you—they are
valid and deserve recognition. Speak their names, share their stories, hold onto their laughter in your heart.
2. Add gratitude, stirring gently to balance the sadness with
thankfulness. Think about the gifts your loved ones brought into your life—their wisdom, joy, and love. Let gratitude
infuse even the saddest moments with warmth and remembrance.
3. Mix in courage, allowing it to blend fully so you can take each moment
as it comes. Allow yourself to sit with the bittersweet feelings of
the season. This may mean shedding tears, writing your thoughts,
or simply embracing the stillness. Healing requires courage, and
every small step matters.
4. Fold in love from those around you, drawing strength from their
support. Choose your company wisely. You know who fills your cup with what you need.
5. Sprinkle in a small tradition that honors your loved one— cook or share a favorite recipe, play the music you would have played, go for a trip to the same special place.
6. Add self compassion , knowing healing takes time but love endures forever. Be kind to yourself. Release any
pressure to feel a certain way or meet external expectations.
Know that healing isn’t linear, your journey is unique to you - and it’s okay to move at your own pace.
In mid December, Millingtons Funeral and Cemetery Services held a Christmas Memorial Service. Those attending were able to hang a decoration in honour of their late loved one/s. I did the same.
Take care - I hope the recipe helps! 🎄💐❤️