25/10/2025
** WEEKEND WONDERING **
“A child who is unable to act on their natural curiosity...to explore....to play...is likely to experiences disruptions in their play capacity and other areas of development. Devastatingly, I see this often present in a child’s self-efficacy and self-concept, particularly in the school context.
These are the kids who, on referral, are often described as not following directions and disrupting other children instead of doing their work. But in fact, when I begin to learn about the child what I so frequently discover is that their poor self-efficacy and low self-concept does not allow them to initiate in the task.
That is far too risky! An unsuccessful attempt would simply reinforce that low self-concept. The child protects themselves against that yucky feeling at all costs by avoiding engagement in the task.
In order to play, children must first act on their natural biological drive of curiosity. It is through this process that children learn to initiate engagement in activities...to try things, experiment, take risks and problem-solve. Through this process children develop self-efficacy” (Katherine Olejniczak).
Why we’re so passionate about talking about CURIOSITY is because it is the FOUNDATIONAL BUILDING BLOCK OF PLAY. Curiosity is a natural biological drive, just like attachment is a biological drive. It’s something inherent in all of us. When we are able to act on our curiosity, we're able to explore the world. THE ABILITY TO EXPLORE LEADS TO CAPACITY TO ENGAGE IN PLAY.
Play leads to feelings of pleasure. It activates our reward neural circuitry and releases the neurotransmitter, dopamine. One of the functions of dopamine is in driving motivation towards that behaviour that is associated with the pleasure feelings and we want to do it more. In play, this leads to repetition. Repetition leads to mastery of experiences. AND HERE LIES THE DEEP VALUE OF PLAY IN CHILDREN’S GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT!
However, FEAR KILLS CURIOSITY! When our fear/stress response is activated we are less able to be curious and engage in play. Our threat response system means that our attention is oriented towards threat and is focused on engaging our survival responses. SO WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR OUR CHILDREN WHO EXPERIENCE CHRONIC STRESS?
It means they are less likely to be able to act on their natural curiosity...to explore...and to play. THINK ON THAT FOR A MOMENT. Think about what that means for the children you're working with. When children have difficulties in play, they miss out on many opportunities that can impact positively on their development.
Think about what this means for the parents of children you're working with. When engaged in play with another person, oxytocin is released. Oxytocin supports bonding and attachment. When children and parents have difficulties in play, they miss out on many opportunities that can impact positively on their attachment relationship.
** THERAPIST REFLECTION PROMPT **
Think about what this means for you in your own life....remember, we are still a human being. We each still have the biological drive of curiosity.
How does curiosity and play present in your life?