Dr David Onu

09/04/2025

Our weekly dose of inspiration

“You’ll get through this. It won’t be painless. It won’t be quick. But God will use this mess for good. In the meantime, don’t be foolish or naïve. But don’t despair either. With God’s help, you will get through this.”
— Max Lucado

I’m a Christian, and I continually draw strength from my faith.

Quotes like this remind me to face life’s turbulence with hope rather than fear: to trust I’ll find help in my darkest hours.

That by God’s grace, I’ll emerge from the darkest seasons.

What are you going through in your life, relationships, or career?

Please share your journey below so we can encourage each other.

And if this message resonates, feel free to repost and spread hope.

Stay blessed and keep stepping forward.

01/08/2024

3-2-1: Improving Marriage Communication, Boosting Confidence, and Enhancing Leadership Skills

Here are 3 ideas from me, 2 quotes from others, and 1 question to ponder this week.

🚀 3 Ideas From Me

I. Relationship
Earlier in my marriage, I struggled to understand the differences in how men and women communicate.

Women often enjoy sharing detailed stories and banter, while most men are poor listeners and keen to get straight to the point.

When I asked my wife about her work day, I had to be prepared for a detailed narrative. In contrast, my response was usually, "My day was fine."

Here are some tips for improving communication in your marriage:

♻️ Listen Attentively: Understand that your spouse values your full attention.

♻️ Resist the urge to offer quick fixes or solutions.

♻️ Show genuine interest in what your partner is saying.

Effective communication is the cornerstone of a happy and lasting relationship. It acts as the glue that holds a couple together.

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24/07/2024

Introducing the New 3-2-1 Grow and Love Newsletter! 🌟

We're thrilled to announce a revamped format for our 'Grow and Love' Weekly, inspired by my mentor James Clear

Here's what you can expect:

🚀3 insightful ideas on relationships, personal growth, or leadership.

🚀2 thought-provoking quotes to inspire and motivate you.

🚀1 compelling question to ponder or discuss.

Now, let's dive into our maiden edition for this week!

"Sir, your articles always strike the right note! I can relate to your insights. It feels like your newsletter was tailor-made for me!"
— Mirabelle

3-2-1 Weekly: The Key to Effective Communication, Continuous Learning, and Self-Mastery.

🚀 Three Ideas from Me:

I. Relationship:
In my marriage, my wife and I have faced various communication challenges. These issues often stem from misunderstandings or poor communication habits.

Here are a few common pitfalls we’ve encountered:

♻️ Using Complex Words: My wife asked if I wanted “guacamole” on my spread a while ago. I responded with a “No,” not realizing guacamole was simply mashed avocado, not a rare lizard from the Amazon!

♻️ A harsh tone or defensive body language can overshadow our clear words.

♻️ Distraction During Conversations: It’s easy to appear inattentive when preoccupied with other thoughts or scrolling on our phone.

♻️ Offering Quick Fixes When all that is needed is a Listening Ear.

Effective communication is essential for thriving relationships. It involves expressing yourself clearly and genuinely and truly listening to others.

II. Personal Growth:
Our time on Earth is limited, and the accumulated knowledge base available to humans is immense. That makes committing to self-discovery and growth vital.

I approach life as a continuous learning experience. As the foundation of growth, I seek knowledge from diverse sources—books, mentors, and personal experiences—and learn from my past successes and failures.

III. Leadership
To lead others effectively, I must start by leading myself. That entails understanding my strengths, weaknesses, emotions, and triggers. Awareness of self is the first step toward becoming an effective leader.

🚀 Two Quotes from Others:
"The greatest gift you can give someone is your time, your attention, and your love."

"We are all visitors to this time, this place. Our purpose here is to observe, to learn, to grow, to love... and then we return home." - Australian Aboriginal Proverb

🚀 One Question for You:
What's one small step you can take today to improve your communication, continuous growth, and self-mastery?

Please post your thoughts and feedback in the comments.

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I. Relationship

21/05/2024

🎉 Excited to share that I've achieved the Certified Results Coach Certificate from Authentic Education, affiliated with the International Coaching Federation in Australia! 🎓

I’m here to empower individuals, couples, and businesses to unlock their full potential, foster deeper relationships, and achieve extraordinary growth. Let's thrive together! 🌟

25/04/2024

𝐔𝐧𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐬: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐋𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐮𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐬

For years, I grappled with finding true fulfillment in my marriage. Then came the breakthrough: discovering the concept of ‘love languages.’

Love languages, popularized by Gary Chapman, are the unique ways individuals give and receive love in their relationships.

They include:

🔑 Words of affirmation
🔑 Quality time
🔑 Receiving gifts
🔑 Acts of service
🔑 Physical touch e.g. intimacy

“𝑰 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒅 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒕𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝑰 𝒂𝒎 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒅.“
𝑮𝒆𝒐𝒓𝒈𝒆 𝑬𝒍𝒍𝒊𝒐𝒕

Such knowledge was a turning point in my marriage.

Research shows that understanding and speaking your partner’s love language can profoundly impact the health and happiness of your relationship.

🔑But how do love languages work?

🔑How can you discover your love language and that of your spouse?

This is the first of a series where we’ll explore each love language in-depth, revealing practical insights and actionable tips to strengthen your connection with your partner.

So stay tuned for more insights on how to speak the language of love fluently.

Read the full blog post for a sneak peek into what’s to come.

P.S.
I’m curious to know your love language- your preference for giving and expressing love?

♻️ Please repost if you find it useful. Thanks!

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https://davidonu.com/love-languages/

Marital harmony measures how well couples know and meet their love languages: affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.

01/04/2024

Today marks another milestone in my journey with Favour, my wife, as we celebrate our wedding anniversary!

Ours was love at first sight, and our love has flourished ever since, enduring every twist and turn life has presented.

Through it all, we’ve found strength and guidance in our faith, trusting God’s unwavering presence and blessings upon our union.

Here’s to raising a glass to many more years filled with love, joy, cherished memories, and the opportunity to positively impact others through our journey together.

Reflecting on this particular day, we remember that ‘Hope, faith, and love abide, but the greatest is love.’

Happy anniversary to Favour Obasi Akpah David and me!

31/03/2024

Happy Easter to All! 🐣🌷

As we celebrate Easter, whether you’re embracing the holiday’s religious significance or simply enjoying a long weekend filled with chocolate eggs and family gatherings, it’s a time of renewal and hope for everyone.

For Christians, Easter holds profound spiritual significance, commemorating the resurrection of Jesus Christ and the promise of new life and redemption.

It’s a time to reflect on Christ’s ultimate sacrifice and the message of love, forgiveness, and hope that defines the essence of this holiday.

But Easter is also a time for all of us, regardless of religious affiliation, to cherish moments with loved ones, and to look forward to brighter days ahead.

I wish you all a joyous and blessed Easter filled with love, laughter, and moments of pure happiness.

17/03/2024

Do you agree that a solid foundation is necessary for building a marriage that thrives and is long-lasting?

Please check out our popular post to learn more.

As we embrace the new year's opportunities, let's delve into the foundations of marriage. These essential elements transform a marriage into a resilient and enduring journey. Explore expert advice.

09/01/2024

🌟 Building a Solid Foundation for Your Marriage

As we embrace the opportunities of the new year, let's explore the essential foundation of marriage. These elements not only transform a marriage into a resilient and enduring journey but also pave the way for lasting love.

I vividly recall the magic of last New Year’s Eve, standing with my wife beneath the iconic Sydney Harbour Bridge, immersed in the breathtaking display of 2024’s fireworks.

Our journey as a couple commenced on New Year’s Day 2005, marked by our traditional wedding ceremony, followed by a Church wedding months later.

It got me thinking about what would constitute our marriage’s foundation.

1. Our unwavering shared Christian faith stands as a cornerstone, providing strength and a moral compass. It significantly influences our approach to parenting with love and grace.

Studies consistently demonstrate faith’s positive effects on lowering marital conflicts and infidelity and improving a couple’s mental health.

2. Our deep trust in each other.
Trust, much like the colours of fireworks, is a gradual yet beautiful process that creates a bond resilient to trials. It takes a long time to fully trust another person.

3. Rooted in the vows we made in 2005, we are committed to face challenges together and cherish each other.

We reject the notion of a “Plan B” and will work harmoniously to settle our inevitable conflicts.

Read the full article through the link below including:

What are some Signs that a Marriage has a Shallow Foundation?

What can you do about it?

What attributes are the foundation of your marriage? What have I missed?

Share your thoughts below and let’s learn from one another!

As we embrace the new year's opportunities, let's delve into the foundations of marriage. These essential elements transform a marriage into a resilient and enduring journey. Explore expert advice.

31/12/2023

🌟 Embrace the power of reflection!

As 2023 draws to a close, join me in exploring the keys to a meaningful Year-End Review and the art of embracing a New Year.

🚀 Dive into the insights in my latest blog post: https://davidonu.com/year-end-review/

Interested in my Year-End Review template?

Drop me a DM with your email, and let's make 2024 your year of growth! 💫

The year end review is an excellent opportunity to celebrate our successes, reflect on the challenges of the past 12 months, and plan for the coming year.

23/12/2023

🎄✨ Amidst the festive cheer, unlock the secrets to a truly joyful season!

Prioritize your well-being, mental health, and relationships with insights from my latest blog post.

Discover practical tips for self-care, mental health and fostering meaningful connections at davidonu.com/festive-season/.

Embrace the joy of the holidays and make this season truly special! 💖

Learn helpful strategies to prioritize your self-care and relationships in the bustling festive season. You can thrive amid the chaotic holidays with our tips.

25/10/2023

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