Heart to Heart Conversations

31/07/2025

Finally a true representation of ADHD for funny Fridays.

Footnote if you’d like to work with a coach that doesn’t try to explain how a calendar works get in Touch I’d love to work with you and share my ADHD hacks and tips.

6908 likes, 226 comments. “Cunk on ADHD Philomena Cunk investigates ADHD. Spoiler: it's not caused by TikTok.”

19/12/2024

Well that was my last day for the year.

Thank you so much for welcoming me into your homes and for allowing me to walk a little of your journey with you.

I’ve loved celebrating your successes and holding space for the hard bits too.

I feel completely blessed to do the work I do and it’s all thanks to you.

May your Christmas be merry and I’ll see you again next year.

Kindest regards and warmest of wishes Christina 💕

16/11/2024

This is Max Alexander - he is now 8 years old (6 in the video ).

Max told his parents when he was 4 that he was a dressmaker. Rather than talk him out of that idea because let’s face it a 4 year old dress maker sounds a bit crazy right , his parents nurtured his interest and talent and now he’s designing and making outfits for models and actors around the world.

I love this story because it shows what is possible when we believe in someone.

I can imagine the idea of letting a child near a sewing machine and hot irons probably felt a bit scary for Max’s family but they supported and nurtured him and he flourished in the light of their belief in him. They let go of what they thought a little boy should be or what he should be doing and allowed him space to be who he is.

I love it when people allow children the space to be exactly who they are not shadows of who with think they should be.

Children are so much more capable than most people think they are our job is to help them find their authentic selves. I wonder how many more Max’s are out there??

If you thinking limiting beliefs might be holding you back from achieving the life you want to live. Get in touch with me and we can have a chat.

Have a great weekend ~ Christina 💕

292K likes, 4238 comments. “💖 A heartfelt moment in Max’s fashion journey. 🎉 Max poured his heart into this jacket for the amazing Stone , and we couldn't be more grateful for her unwavering support of young talents. 🙏🏻🌟 Her belief in the next generation has lit the way fo...

29/10/2024

Out for two days training and learning about Collaborative and Proactive Solutions when working with children.

Whilst that’s always been my philosophy and approach it’s great to be able to fine tune more of it and meet Dr. Ross Greene. I’ve admired his work for a while now.

21/10/2024

When I work with families and newly diagnosed neurodivergent people one of the common themes that comes up is around food.

For so long I’ve heard people talk about their children being fussy or picky eaters, but what if we changed that narrative and thought about it as cautious eaters.

Fresh fruit and vegetables can have so many variables.

Sometimes it’s soft, sometimes hard, sometimes sweet, sometimes sour.

In a chaotic inner world it can be the final straw that tips the person into a melt down.

Consistency and predictability equals safety and happiness in a neurodivergent world. Our safe foods can give us that.

Having to make too many decisions can also create stress and anxiety. So limiting choices around food, clothes, activities, events makes perfect sense.

Let’s change the narrative around these things and give yourself or your kids a break - you’re not fussy, choosy, difficult , annoying, high maintenance or any of those other words you’ve likely heard or thought. You’re just doing the best you can with the personal resources you have.

If you’d like to explore any of these ideas further I’ve got a couple of places coming up in my schedule so just let me know I’d love to hear from you.

Be kind to yourself

Christina 💕

12/09/2024

R U Ok day.

The world can be a lot at times and one thing we do know about metal health is how difficult it can be to ask for help.

This is where we come in.

Reaching out to people; checking in ; listening without judgement are all ways we can look out for each other and don’t pressume someone else is doing it.

We should make this our common practice, an everyday thing. Whilst R U Ok day is a great awareness tool we still need to do it on the other 364 days of the year too.

11/09/2024

My whole life I’ve had to examine my relationship with fear and I’ve made some interesting discoveries that I’d love to share.

Due to my trauma history I would often be crippled by fear - even a simple trip to the shops would make me feel sick with it.

I honestly thought if I did the work on myself I’d combat my fears and have a crazy good life.

I’ve been working on myself for many years now but still fear shows up for me.

I started journaling and sitting with the feeling of fear rather than avoiding it and this is what happened.

I began with fears like what if they don’t have what I need in the shop, what if I park crooked and someone takes a photo, what if it’s too noisy stuff like that.

As I’ve over come those fears and “leveled up” the next ones came.

What if people don’t like the circles I’ve planned, what if people think my training sessions are dumb, what if people hate my reiki?

Now I’m comfortable with those fears and grew and leveled up some more the next ones came- what if I don’t get accepted into uni, I might not be smart enough to run a retreat , what if my retreat just sucks and everyone hates it ?

I’ve noticed as my capacity and growth has changed I still have fears but the fears are changing with me and as I over come each fear it keeps me going and growing and challenging myself.

I’ve regrooved my relationship with fear and don’t find fear so scary anymore. What if fear is good for us??

I’ve gone from being fearful of shopping to now being fearful of wether I should be writing a book or not.

I was getting frustrated that I hadn’t overcome fear but I don’t think I’m supposed to.

I’ve discovered I don’t want fear controling me or calling the shots or stopping me from living my life but I can respect it, work with it and use it to help guide me and grow me. Fear has kept me safe at times and is super useful.

When fear pops up it helps me pay more attention and really sit with what’s going on with me and for that I’m super grateful.

I’ve learned to work with my fears and even embrace them.

Understanding that fear will always be present is important it’s how I’m present in fear that’s the game changer.

Have a brilliant day
Christina 💕

04/09/2024

With the kind of work that I do, getting public recommendations or testimonies from the people I work with is rare.

Confidentiality, not being ready to disclose or privacy matters makes it difficult to get the “rating” that drives people to your page.

That sort of thing isn’t appropriate for my work - I never ask for or expect it - the sovereignty of my client is my first priority.

You can only imagine how special it was to receive this lovely recommendation of my work today. I really appreciate it. Thank you.

22/08/2024

My manuscript has been accepted by the editors - another step closer to my book.

10/08/2024

When I work with children it’s play therapy all the way. My Early Childhood training always shines through when I work with children.

Play is the natural way that children communicate and relate to the world. Meeting them exactly where they are creates a relationship of trust and helps open up communication channels.

Play helps children learn how to regulate their emotions and find their own interests.

It helps them learn their strength and how to engage with others.

It develops problem solving skills and confidence. It’s also fun and gives us a good boost of dopamine and serotonin.

Play isn’t just for children it’s good for grown ups too and is an essential part of good mental health.

When was the last time you played??

09/08/2024

I really could not have said it better myself. Why not you indeed such a strong and powerful message.

Have a great day Christina 💕

25/07/2024

People with ADHD and ASD have a tendency to over think things especially when it comes to social interactions.

It’s usual for us to have a well crafted script fully formed in our heads before we even go anywhere only to have it fall apart when we get there.

I try not to do that anymore and try to be more in the moment listening to the people around me and responding more authentically to what they’re saying.

This helps me not have that sense of “messing it up” when I get home because it didn’t go to plan. ( I do sometimes have my fingers crossed behind my back that dinosaurs will be mentioned at least once though 🤞🏼).

Have a great weekend
Christina 💕