21/10/2025
You know that hottie you’ve been seeing, how they’ve taken over your brain 🧠and you can’t think of anyone or anything else 💭? And you’re hanging out for a text 💬, a loving moment 💕, anything to make you feel that this obsession could turn into a long term love? But you’re left unread, that loving moment is followed by multiple instances of being let down 😔emotionally injured, feeling panicked 🫦that they’re withdrawing from you? And it feels like the most intense but painful emotional roller coaster 🎢 ride of your life? But as bad as this feels, you can’t let go 😟😥 You know it’s eroding your self respect, eroding any sense of stability you had worked so hard to achieve, but you still justify it as chemistry and tbh you probably haven’t felt this switched on 🎰since the last intense romance. Take a step back and look at this feeling, does it remind you of how you used to feel as a child? Ask yourself whether you felt truly emotionally safe as a child, perhaps love felt unpredictable or conditional ⚠️. What’s happening is that your nervous system is recognising a similar level of inconsistency and lack of safety from your childhood. This “spark” “electricity” 💡isn’t romance or chemistry, that’s your nervous system reacting to what feels familiar to you. And because it feels familiar, your anxiety at some level reduces. You’re used to this chaos, but that doesn’t mean that this electric feeling is chemistry. That spark ⚡️ : it’s anxiety dressed as romance ❤️🩹. To save yourself a good few decades of this old wound bleeding, work on the wound not the dodgy band aid 🩹 and help it heal.