04/05/2026
The Weight of Always Being “Too Much”
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I’ve spent my whole life hearing it: “You’re too emotional. You’re too needy. You’re too much.” It’s like every time I let someone in, I’m already bracing myself for when they’ll leave. And they always do. So I try to shrink myself—hold back my feelings, say less, need less. But no matter how small I make myself, it’s never enough.
This week, it hit me that I’ve been walking on eggshells for so long I don’t even know what it feels like to just be me. I’m so afraid of being abandoned that I’ve forgotten how to stand still without constantly checking if I’m “too much” for someone. It’s exhausting, and the saddest part is I don’t even think it’s working. People leave anyway.
I wish I could say I’m past this, but I’m not. I still catch myself overthinking every text, apologizing for things I shouldn’t, bending over backward to make sure no one is upset with me. I don’t even know what it feels like to believe I’m enough just as I am.
But today, I’m trying something different. Just for one day, I’m not going to apologize for existing. I’m not going to question if my feelings are too big or if I’m asking for too much. I’m not going to shrink. I’ll just let myself take up the space I deserve—because maybe, just maybe, it’s okay to be “too much.”
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