Kurrajong Kinesiology

25/03/2026

Yessssss

But did you celebrate the moment you paused a spiral instead of following it? That was healing.

You're so focused on the big milestones, the breakthrough therapy session, the toxic relationship ended, the no contact initiated, that you completely overlook the small victories that actually prove you're healing. Like the moment you caught yourself spiraling into anxiety and stopped. You didn't believe every catastrophic thought. You didn't let it consume your entire day. You paused, took a breath, and chose not to follow that spiral all the way down.

That's healing. Not the absence of spirals, but your ability to interrupt them. To catch yourself mid-fall and grab onto something stable. To recognize the pattern and choose differently even when your brain is screaming at you to panic. Those micro-moments of choosing better, of pausing instead of plummeting, those are the real evidence of growth. So celebrate them. Acknowledge that you're not the person who would've spiraled for hours or days. You're the person who stopped it. And that shift? That's everything.

26/02/2026

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"What you find normal will find you… and what you cannot normalize, you cannot sustain.

You can want joy and still contract around it. You can want peace and still recreate chaos. You can want abundance and still feel safer in scarcity. That’s because our nervous system chooses before our mind does. So the real question becomes:

What have you normalized?

Have you normalized struggle? Have you normalized inconsistency? Have you normalized being the strong one? Have you normalized having to prove your worth? Have you normalized disappointment so thoroughly that it no longer surprises you?

Because whatever you have normalized is what will continue to feel familiar. And familiarity feels like destiny until you look closely. To paraphrase Jung: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.“

And this is where most people stop reading.

Because it’s easier to talk about vision boards than to examine what your body does when something good happens. It’s easier to say 'I want more & better' than it is to notice how quickly you shrink when more approaches. It’s easier to blame timing, luck, or the wrong people, than to ask whether your system has the capacity to receive what you say you desire."

—Jovanny Varela, excerpt from Gentle Reminder No 127: "What You Find Normal Will Find You - what happens when your body doesn't know how to say yes to the good things in life?"

The ability to receive is one of the major bottlenecks on the healing journey. If you know you're meant for more but your system still contracts when the more goodness shows up, I wrote this one for you ❤️🫂

Read the full piece: jovannyvarela.substack.com

Artwork by Iulia Bochis

25/02/2026

Water you waiting for?

22/02/2026

20/02/2026

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09/02/2026

Just one of the many amazing therapists I am honoured to share the space with. New kinesiology dates coming soon.
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24/01/2026

This is such an excellent and fun way to transform, get inspired and find your creativity. Founded and run by a wonderful old friend of mine - I highly recommend it. I've done it myself and will be back.

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24/01/2026

05/01/2026

There will come a random Sunday evening, an ordinary conversation, or a moment so small you almost miss it, when you’re simply too exhausted to keep performing or accepting less than you deserve.

You might catch yourself about to force a laugh at a joke you don’t find funny, nod along with an opinion that makes your skin crawl, or shrink yourself into something more digestible. And right there, in that raw, unguarded moment, you realize you’ve been holding onto a relationship that no longer aligns with the truth of who you are.

When you stop the act and retire your people-pleasing tendencies, those who benefited from the mask will feel uncomfortable, even threatened. They’ll call you “different,” “changed,” “too much,” as if you’ve regressed. What they really mean is that you’ve stopped being convenient or easy to shape. They can no longer take from you like they used to.

Authenticity often means outgrowing approval, artificial harmony, and relationships sustained by performance. It will hurt. But you must let it. The ache is part of the return to heart.

Naturally, you will feel some guilt and grief. But remember this: how can people see you for who you are if you’re performing who you’re not? How can anyone love what they’ve never actually met? Real relationships and deep connections require you to be the most authentic version of yourself.

It’s time to stop translating yourself for people who refuse to learn your language. You’re out here explaining your boundaries, feelings, and existence like you’re asking for permission to take up space. You’re not. You don’t need to footnote your complexity or apologize for your contradictions. You’re allowed to be evolving, messy, sensitive, fierce, uncertain, and still worthy of love and respect.

The right people won’t need a manual to appreciate you. They won’t require you to dim or distort or diminish. They’ll meet you in your wholeness and call it sacred.

Please note that this post shouldn’t be used to excuse harmful patterns or remove personal responsibility.