03/02/2025
In the original post by Natural Learner - Leah McDermott she gave a fantastic caption:
"Can you imagine someone following you around trying to turn everything you did into a “learning” experience?!
“Oh, I see you mixed those ingredients with the mixer, Stephanie... why don’t we try doing it by hand now!”
“Hmmm pumping gas was fun, wasn’t it, John? Let’s read all about how the gas is used in the car!”
“I see you love unwinding by playing the guitar, Emily. Let’s enroll you in some lessons so you can be even better!”
“Interesting choice to end your email that way, Sam. Can you write four more signing offs to experiment?”
Just let your kids enjoy things. Not everything has to become a lesson or be any more than it already is.
You’re just putting undue pressure on yourself and possibly ruining an enjoyable experience for your child."
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I truly believe that this stems almost completely from the fact that play is NOT seen as valuable.
Play is not seen as learning.
Play is not seen as developing crucial skills.
Play is seen as wasting time between "all the other stuff" we need kids to do throughout a day. So when they're some age that we think they need to quit wasting time and get around to the real life stuff...5 or 4 or 3...then we think they better quit playing and start doing more meaningful things.
(Not stop playing *entirely*, of course, we would never ask something so unreasonable! Just long enough for circle time...or to make them trace letters and shapes...or to quiz them on things they already know...)
If we actually saw play as valuable as it actually is, it would shift our entire lens on its head.
[Image description: A screenshot of a tweet by Your Natural Learner - Leah McDermott that reads, "It's such a weird adult instinct to want to turn everything into a more 'meaningful' experience, isn't it? Like...what if we just...let kids ENJOY THINGS?" with a "mind blown" emoji. End description.]