01/06/2025
If we spoke to our family and friends the way we often speak to ourselves—with constant criticism, ridicule, and harsh judgment—those relationships would likely suffer deeply. Imagine saying to a loved one:
• "You're not good enough."
• "You always mess things up."
• "Why even try? You’ll just fail again."
They would feel hurt, demoralized, and perhaps start to withdraw or believe those things about themselves. Over time, the connection would erode—trust would break down, self-worth would diminish, and the relationship might not survive.
Yet we often tolerate, even normalize, that kind of dialogue in our own minds.
What’s striking is that if a friend spoke to us the way we speak to ourselves, we might stop being friends with them. But when we do it, we think it’s justified or even necessary for improvement.
Shifting that inner voice from critical to compassionate doesn’t mean lying to ourselves—it means being honest without cruelty. It means holding ourselves accountable without shame. And it often begins by asking:
Would I say this to someone I care about?
Because the truth is, we are someone worth caring about—including by ourselves.
Would you like some practical ways to shift that inner dialogue?
Ready to stop the self-criticism and start practicing true self-kindness?
Then please reach out to me—I can help you learn to be kind to yourself.
✉️ Jason@guidedtalk.com.au
Whether you’re new to the idea of self-compassion or you’ve been struggling for years, I’ll meet you where you are and guide you toward a gentler, more supportive inner dialogue. Let’s begin this journey together.
