19/03/2026
My son said 'mum you stand on business'.
I asked him what that meant. A bit worried about the response to be honest. Adolescence brings a fresh quality of brutality and I was a bit tired from a day of 'running late and needing the loo' 😉
He said.. 'you don't muck around and you've got my back'...
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I was still a bit lost with this explanation so chat gtp explained. 🙌
It was enlightening and perhaps threatening to me 'being a good human'. After all, we are conditioned to 'not rock the boat'. And smile a lot 😉
It got me thinking because I've received other feedback pointing towards this...
Do I say too much? Can I speak assertively and with love? What is the opposite of 'standing on business'?
Can I take a stand and be full of love?
Why is speaking the truth so uncomfortable.
And
Where does my 'standing on business' come from?
Maybe it's from witnessing the broken systems for decades. The abuse, the disrespect, the ignorance.
Maybe it's from the decline in mental health and wellbeing and the lack of innovation and evidence based practices actually available in our community. Or the lack of personal responsibility and empowerment.
Or maybe it's from looking into the hollow eyes of the one who has endured so much and feels so powerless and broken. The eyes that hold the true goodness and love but are filled with self doubt and self loathing.
Maybe it's from being with the one who has been unheard and dismissed. The one taught to have no voice, no say, no control in their own life.
The young woman who is just a girl who sits in front of me and tells me of the abuse and carries a wound so great that my heartbreaks and I feel totally useless and angry and devastated all at the same time.
So yes, I'm fed up with the 'Donald Trump's' and women being murdered and being called difficult.
I'm fed up with systems that protect abusers and perpetuate disrespect and inequality.
Sometimes I speak up and occasionally yes, I am the voice in anothers life, but this happens rarely.
Instead I'm just the steady consistent presence in the background. A space for growth, reflection, enquiry, acceptance and freedom to flourish. The space for their own wisdom to be nurtured as they find their voice and strength to speak.
So maybe I'll just continue on with the 'standing on business' and occasionally wear my shirt to add a bit of spice to it all ♥️
