Being Well Counselling Northern Rivers

13/10/2024

Could be worth a look...

I am so thrilled to be doing a very special masterclass with my dear friend and mentor Steve Biddulph.

In his fabulous new book, Wild Creature Mind, Steve explores the neuroscience that is proving how important it is for us to listen to our inner wisdom. I could not love this more because it validates for me so much of what I have intuitively known throughout my time as a parent, teacher, counsellor and now in my work with parents.

So I cannot wait to sit down with him and unpack all this for you.

Why are we doing this class?

For many of us living on planet Earth right now, life feels hard, and it can be difficult to parent optimistically with the day-to-day challenges we’re facing as individuals and globally.
Our children and teens are bearing the full brunt of this and it’s not for nothing that they are being labelled ‘the anxious generation’. As Steve explains in his book, the good news is that modern neuroscience is showing us where we have been going wrong. It’s also showing us a better way, and it’s something we can all access because it lives right inside us.

If you or your child or teen experience anxiety, this masterclass will be a huge help.

Steve rarely does online classes but we really enjoy working together so this is a great opportunity for all parents to share in his wisdom - and I reckon I might have something useful to offer too! I hope you can join us.
https://commonsenseparenting.com.au/p/wild-creature-parenting

06/10/2024

The awe of being alive and a witness to life and the universe.

The text description for the video is morbid (scary things get more clicks apparently), the concept Brian talks about is beautiful, in my mind...

Brian cox: If We Destroy Ourselves 😔Join Brian Cox as he talks about what happens if we destroy ourselves or humanity in a galaxy of 400 billion stars. He s...

01/04/2024

Anxiety comes with a story, ‘I feel as though something bad is going to happen so something bad must be going to happen.’ This story makes sense, but it will drive fight or flight behaviour that can hold them back. This might look like avoidance, aggression, resistance, refusal, sick tummies, headaches, tears, tantrums.
When we change the story, we change the response. To do this, we need to present anxiety as an ally that ‘works hard to keep you safe, but sometimes it just works a little too hard.’ .

Here’s how it works: When the amygdala senses something that might be a threat, it surges us with a powerful neurochemical cocktail to make us more powerful, stronger, faster, more alert, more able to fight or flee the threat. This drives every physical symptom that comes with anxiety. It’s the brain and body doing exactly what they are meant to do, but at a time they don’t need to. .

Not everything the brain senses as a threat is actually a threat. Brains are smart, but they can be a little overprotective sometimes. Brains will do anything to keep us alive - it’s why we love them so much - but sometimes they will work too hard.
The problem is that the physiology is so persuasive. It feels like we’re in danger, which can make even the strongest of minds believe it to be true. The key is to help them see anxiety for what it is - a warning, not a stop sign. .
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We can strengthen them by nurturing a felt sense inside them that lets them feel bigger in the presence of anxiety - because they can feel anxious and do brave. We do this by presenting anxiety as something that is there to look after them, and something they can manage.
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Anxiety is there to hold them back from danger but it was never meant to hold them back. We know they are capable of big things, every one of them. Now to shift anxiety out of their way so they can know it too.