Mohamed Rima

26/10/2025

🌸 Welcoming Sumaiya Siddiqui to Our Practice 🌸

Good news for women seeking a female counsellor: I’m delighted to welcome Sumaiya Siddiqui, a Master of Counselling student, who will be completing her placement at my practice.

Sumaiya brings a rich blend of academic excellence and heartfelt experience. She holds a Postgraduate Degree in Psychology and has spent six years in community service, specialising as an Emotional and Relationship Coach for women. Her approach is grounded, compassionate, and deeply attuned to the emotional needs of women and families.

🧠 Core Competencies:

✅ Grief and trauma counselling
✅ Relationship counselling
✅ Stress and anxiety management
✅ Emotional wellness support

🌱 Professional Vision:
Sumaiya is committed to helping women cultivate emotional resilience and build stronger family foundations. Her work integrates evidence-based practice with lived community insight, offering a safe and empowering space for healing and growth.

🕰️ Availability:
Tuesdays and Wednesdays
9:30 AM – 11:30 AM

Bookings are very limited.

📧 To book an appointment with Sumaiya, please email her directly: umaleeya@gmail.com

19/10/2025

People often confuse two people connecting over shared experiences of abuse and a trauma bond. Connecting with someone over shared pain and experiences is not what trauma bond means.

18/10/2025

What is a trauma bond in a romantic relationship?

Trauma bonds don’t just form in romantic relationships. They can show up anywhere there’s power, control, and emotional manipulation. That includes siblings, friends, parent-child dynamics, workplaces, and even coaching or therapeutic relationships.

17/10/2025

Blind spots when getting to know someone new

Full video accessible in my private Facebook group.

16/10/2025

Covert emotional abuse is a slow erosion of reality.

15/10/2025

People-pleasing isn’t about kindness. It's about controlling how other people perceive you.

Note: this is not intended for abusive and violent relationships.

13/10/2025

Rejection wounds often form in the spaces where you were unseen as a child.

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11/10/2025

11/10/2025

Healing for adult children of narcissistic parents begins when someone finally says, “I believe you.”

Adult children of narcissistic parents don’t just walk out of dysfunction. They crawl out of a gaslit reality, often unsure if their pain is even real. For years, they’ve been told they’re too sensitive, too dramatic, too much. But the truth is: they were never too much. They were never seen enough.

Narcissistic parents live in a distorted version of reality. One where their needs eclipse everyone else’s, and their children’s truths are rewritten to serve the illusion. In this world, love is conditional, empathy is absent, and accountability is a threat. The child learns to doubt their own memories, their own instincts, their own worth.

But the trauma doesn’t end at the front door. Abuse rarely occurs in isolation. It’s reinforced by family systems and communities that echo the gaslighting. “You’re being unreasonable.” “You should be grateful.” “They did their best.” These phrases don’t soothe. They silence. They teach survivors to swallow their pain and perform normalcy.

That’s why healing isn’t just about self-reflection. It’s about being witnessed.

To be seen without distortion.
To be heard without interruption.
To be understood without judgment.

Empathetic witness is the antidote to gaslighting. It’s the moment someone looks you in the eye and says, “What happened to you was real. And it wasn’t your fault.”

This kind of presence doesn’t fix the past, but it rewrites the story survivors tell themselves. It restores dignity. It rebuilds trust. It reminds them that their reality matters.

If you’re an adult child of a narcissistic parent, know this: your healing is sacred. You deserve spaces where your truth is not only allowed, but honoured. You deserve relationships where empathy flows freely, and your voice is no longer drowned out by someone else’s denial.

Healing begins when you are no longer alone in your truth.
Healing deepens when someone holds that truth with care.
And healing transforms when you finally believe yourself again.

You are not unreasonable.
You are not ungrateful.
You are not invisible.

You are real.
You are worthy.
You are seen.

04/10/2025

"Self-aware" narcissist influencers

03/10/2025

We often downplay verbal abuse in relationships, but it's a significant red flag. Abusers typically start with verbal manipulation to gain control, progressing to emotional, mental, and intimidation tactics before resorting to physical violence. Remember, verbal abuse is a form of domestic violence.

02/10/2025

When a child says, “I broke the vase,” and we respond with calm curiosity instead of anger, we teach them that truth is safe.
When they admit, “I cheated on the test,” and we guide them through accountability instead of shame, we show that honesty leads to growth.
When they whisper, “I’m scared to tell you something,” and we listen without judgment, we prove that love doesn’t hinge on perfection.

Every reaction is a lesson. If we punish vulnerability, they’ll learn to hide. If we meet it with compassion, they’ll learn to trust.