XTend Yourself provides a range of services being led by a mental health clinician.
Accredited Clinical Counsellor delivering nationwide Counselling services, including in person and Telehealth appointments. NDIS participant services provider, Improved Daily Living, Improved Relationships, Employment Support, and much more.
22/07/2025
Hello everyone!
Every now and then (especially during this time of year!), it's nice to hibernate and focus on core things. As such, we are talking a little social media break, and hope that you will also take this time to do some things just for you, that bring you warmth and comfort.
Are you trying to break a bad habit? Willpower alone won’t cut it, use a strategic process instead. Here’s how to make lasting change:
⭕ Identify your triggers - What sparks the bad habit? Is it boredom, stress, sadness? Maybe an environment, like a pub, or social events.
⭕ Be specific about your habits - Define exactly what you're changing and why, using as much detail as possible. To reach any goal you must be very specific about what the goal is.
⭕ Replace your bad habits - Swap bad habits with rewarding alternatives. You'll want to choose a new habit that's going to provide a similar reward or benefit, otherwise the swap won't work and you'll be tempted to return to the bad habit.
⭕ Measure your progress - Set clear ways to track success. A daily tracker or chart with clear visuals can work really well
⭕ Increase the pressure - Use accountability or incentives to stay on track. You may choose to utilise outside accountability, such as competition with others, accountability buddies, or perhaps a counsellor.
⭕ Plan, plan, plan - Prepare for both success and setbacks. Include a plan for getting back on track if you do experience set-backs.
⭕ Write it down - Make your plan visible and actionable. Visual cues and a clear set of actions make a world of difference.
Real change starts with intention. Set yourself up to win. If you need a little help, we're here for you - just reach out! www.xtendyourself.com.au/contact/
01/07/2025
✨ Celebrating Disability Pride Month 2025 ✨
This July, we honour the strength, creativity, and resilience of our clients, friends, and the entire disability community. ♥️
At XTend Yourself, inclusion isn’t just a value - it’s who we are. Our community inspires us every day, and this month, we celebrate YOU!
Disability Pride Month is about more than awareness, it's about belonging. It's about challenging stereotypes and creating spaces where every person feels seen, heard, and valued.
Let’s keep showing up, speaking out, and building a future where all abilities are celebrated.
17/03/2025
🌟 It’s Neurodiversity Celebration Week! 🌟
This global initiative is all about breaking down stereotypes and celebrating the incredible talents and skills of neurodivergent individuals.
It’s a time to recognise and support the unique strengths of everyone, while building more inclusive, empowering cultures in schools, universities, workplaces, and beyond.
Let’s celebrate the beauty of our differences and work towards a world where everyone can thrive!
12/03/2025
Managing mental exhaustion is essential, but it doesn't have to be overwhelming. Here are some practical tips that can help you overcome mental fatigue:
6. Prioritise self-care: Spend at least 30 minutes daily on something that brings you joy, like reading, walking, or watching a comedy.
7. Control what you can: While you can’t change the world around you, you can accept the uncertainty of the future and trust in your ability to manage yourself.
8. Practice mindfulness: When your mind races, stop and observe it. Focus on one thought at a time to avoid overthinking and stay grounded.
9. Embrace change: Focus on the present moment and find joy in each day to reduce mental exhaustion.
By embracing some or all of these suggestions, you can manage mental exhaustion and maintain balance in challenging times.
10/03/2025
Your therapist can only provide the best help if you're open about all of your main concerns and issues.
It can be difficult to fully trust a therapist at the start, but it's important to be as transparent as possible so they can gain a clear understanding of your situation and recommend the right treatment.
It's also crucial to be honest about your progress. If therapy is going well, let them know. If you're not seeing improvement or feel worse, share that too. Your honest feedback allows your therapist to make necessary adjustments to better support you.
05/03/2025
Becoming more self-aware is a journey that unfolds over time. It requires patience, commitment, and a dedication to mindful reflection and introspection. By practicing these habits daily, you'll develop a deeper understanding of yourself.
4. Reflect on your values and beliefs:
First, take a moment to reflect on what truly matters to you. What do you stand for?
What values shape your decisions?
Secondly, take time to reflect on how you view yourself and the world around you.
Are your beliefs empowering you, or are they limiting you?
Challenge any beliefs that might be holding you back.
03/03/2025
Combating loneliness can be challenging, especially in busy or isolated environments, but we hope that adopting these habits can make a difference:
Connect with new people…
Make it a habit to connect with others by attending the weekly office coffee hour, joining a book club, signing up for a fitness class, or taking a moment each morning to have a quick chat with a colleague.
These small interactions can help foster meaningful connections and create a sense of belonging in your daily life.
27/02/2025
For many, achieving stillness can be difficult, often because it feels so unfamiliar. However, like learning to ride a bike or picking up any other new skill, it all comes down to practice.
Here are a few ways you can start cultivating stillness and enjoy the numerous health benefits it offers:
• Focus on your breath: Inhale for 3 counts, hold for 3, exhale for 6-8 counts, repeat for 1 minute.
• Take pauses: Before starting a new task, stop for 15 seconds to be still, adding 5 seconds every few days.
• Schedule stillness: Inform others you're taking time out and gradually increase your stillness time.
• Connect with nature: Find a quiet spot to relax, like floating in water or sitting outdoors.
• Affirm calmness: Use an affirmation like "I am still and calm" to shift your mind into stillness.
• Struggling with stillness? Start by focusing on activities like listening to music, reading, or drawing to practice calmness.
25/02/2025
Although staying motivated day-to-day can be difficult, it's essential because it keeps you moving forward and brings you closer to achieving your long-term goals.
One way to do this is by adopting an “addition” mindset rather than a “subtraction” one.
Set yourself up for success by considering the positive changes you want to bring into your life.
For example, if you're aiming to eat healthier, don't frame it as "these are the foods I need to cut out." Instead, think, "these are the delicious recipes and foods I get to enjoy in my diet."
Stay tuned for more tips of how to optimise your energy and motivation…
23/02/2025
The language we use can shape our emotional state - talking more about positive feelings is linked to better mental and physical well-being, while focusing on sadness or fear can actually amplify those emotions.
While it is understandable that you won’t feel positive all the time, and you are well within your right to have ‘low’ days, try using more positive words to describe your feelings if possible… it could boost both your mood and health! Give it a try!
20/02/2025
Even when work aligns with our purpose, certain habits and traps that we fall into can lead to stress and burnout.
The overly adaptable trap:
One common trap is being overly adaptable—especially for people-pleasers who say "yes" to everything to meet others' expectations.
If you find yourself overextending to please others, ask "am I sacrificing my well-being?" and if the answer is “yes”, it's time to set better boundaries. Start saying “no” more often, even to small requests, and protect your recharge time. Your well-being matters!
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I lead conversations with individuals and organisations for personal and professional development.
With me as your Counsellor, Coach, Mentor, you will create awareness of personal and professional behaviours. You will share conversations, information and interaction to honestly appraise your approach and counter unhelpful thinking, especially in response to crisis, stress and change.
More than that I want to share the values of; Loyalty, Flexibility, Rapport, Transparency, Co-opting others, Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Right Door, Professionalism, Progression, Credibility, Trust, Safety, Sharing Knowledge and many others. It is important to me that I lead with natural honesty, in the development of individuals and organisations to work towards realistic outcomes, that are inclusive of all voices, where those voices infuse the outcomes and outputs from our practice. Your voice is important and it is validated in this safe place.
This experiences is inclusive of expertise, qualifications and demonstrated knowledge in coaching, counselling, psychology, clinical research and business. It contributes to my innate skills and understanding of complex behavioural constructs, the ability to dig deeper to causality, which set the foundation for my person centered and solution focused practice.
Professional experiences include; co-design, collective impact, business development, risk management, compliance, strategy, advocacy, systems design, change strategies process and planning, complex stakeholder and relationship management.
Personal experiences include; relationships, parenting, resettlement, social and economic disadvantage, problem solving, employment activities, conflict resolution, life skills educator, behavioural change, families, disability and ageing.
These real conversations matter, for a Good Today, Better Tomorrow.
Access services through self-referral. Additional referral to other clinical professionals within a community of practice can be facilitated includes; clinical psychologists, counsellors and other allied health professionals. By Appointment Only. Call 0412 830 386 for bookings.
Counsellor
Coach
Mentor
NDIS Provider
Member of the Australian Counselling Association (ACA).
PACFA Affiliate Member