05/05/2023
“A sacred window of time” … Ysha Oakes
This is a time to honour this beautiful goddess - Mother. Childbirth can be a pretty intense time. From labour… to 6wks postpartum & beyond for some of us. Honour her by holding space… to have a chat, make her a cuppa, make the family a meal, stay a while so mumma can have a shower or a quick nap. Let her know she’s done an amazing job. Check in and make sure she’s ok.
A new mumma is using everything in her power to fill her babies needs. She in turn needs her needs met, her bucket filled & her body to heal. ❤️
Hold the mother, not the baby.
Because the baby’s being taken care of—
fed, snuggled, and given all the love in the world—
by not only the mother,
but her partner, grandparents, siblings, cousins, and friends.
But the mother,
may have gaps in her mind from lack of sleep,
may be mechanical in her motions as she’s healing,
may feel more like a mess than a mother,
may be sitting in bed, crying, feeling overwhelmed in her body and life,
may be full of mom guilt because in her mind, "she's not good enough,"
and she’s bleeding, wincing in pain, swollen and emotional.
And the mother’s that baby's whole world and needs to be seen, so she doesn't disappear into that postpartum fog.
So, hold the mother, not the baby.
A mother agrees that her baby matters more.
But she’s hurting, while she’s the person behind the baby,
in the background, making it all happen:
feeding her baby at all hours,
snuggling her baby close to comfort newborn cries,
and being that baby’s everything.
So, it’s the mother who needs your love.
And a mother will remember who held her up.
So instead of “I’m coming to see the baby,”
try saying, “I’m coming to see you 𝘢𝘯𝘥 meet the baby, too.”
Because the mother needs to be held more.
📸: This Mama Doodles
Words by: Living FULL
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