04/08/2025
Breastfeeding when you feel touched out is hard!
You love your baby/child so much, and yet you crave some personal space.
You’re not the only one.
I remember it happening to me after breastfeeding for 2 years. I knew it was time to wean, but felt so conflicted.
I can see now:
I didn’t give myself the space to fill my own cup.
I wish I knew to do these when I felt this way:
🌿 Step outside (not to hang out the washing).
Ask your partner, mum, or doula for 15 mins of baby-holding time.
Then take your bare feet to the ground. Breathe in the air. Bask in the sun, moon, rain - whatever’s going.
No multitasking. Just you + the Earth.
** Alternatively, pop some magnesium chloride flakes / epsom salts into a tub, add nice warm water, and stick your feet into it with a big ‘aaaaahhhhhh’.
💃 Dance it out.
Turn on something with a beat and move your body.
Bonus if your toddler joins in, but let them know you’re doing your “solo mama dance” this time. No holding hands. No bouncing them on your hip. Just you.
❤️ Sit. Breathe. Feel.
Even if you’ve got your baby on you, close your eyes for a moment.
Breathe in, breathe out. Feel what’s there. No fixing, just noticing.
Imagine all the thoughts and mental clutter floating up in a balloon. Let them drift off.
Breathe into the resentment, confusion, exhaustion. Let the tears flow if you need to.
And if you can find one thing to feel grateful for - even if it’s the bird song you hear, or having hot water available 24/7 - let that fill you for a sec.
It’s a journey.
You’re doing it so beautifully mama - even when it feels messy.
Let me know what helps you when the touched-out feeling hits. I’d love to hear > comment below.
Blessings
Tara
🦋🍃
