Internal Connections Counselling

29/01/2025

How you feel matters 💗
Often people ask the question. Is what I feel valid? Am I over reacting? The short answer is no, how you feel is how you feel.

Often how we feel was dimissed by the people around us. This doen't make them "bad" people. It makes them uncomfortable with how you feel. Don't let other peoples discomfort talk you out of your truth. How you feel, is how you feel. Period, there is no right or wrong.

Then then comes the next step of healing and recovery. After we honor our feelings, we can learn from them.

What are they trying to tell me, How does that feel in my body? What is unresolved from my past that needs my attention? What boundary do I need to gain more clarity around and communicate more clearly? A few examples of where the magic of recoverly begins.

Do you treat your emotions like they really matter?

02/12/2024

Toxic Certainty vs Self Leadership

Lately I have been uncovering words or phrases for things that previously were abstract concepts in my mind and therefore a little difficult for me to fully form a clear understanding of my experience.

There have been two significant epiphanies lately and toxic certainty was one.

Have you ever had the experience where someone is so certain about YOUR experience? Perhaps expressing certainty about “how it is” generally, or how someone “is”.

I have had two friends in my life who were particularly disorienting for me. Both women had wisdom, but also so much pain, so much hurt, anger and disappointment. They thought they were seeing my life with certainty. Intuitively I knew at the time, they were not seeing me. How you say? Because I felt misunderstood.

Perhaps, they were seeing their experiences or maybe they were seeing THROUGH the lens of their experience and projecting it on me. If you are not free yourself, your lens will be distorted.

I knew inside a lot of what they said just didn’t really land with me, It made me feel bad about myself, and when I reflect on it now what I now know is when someone has a lot of force behind their words and that force doesn’t uplift you, that just might be a signal of toxic certainty.

Truth spoken will pierce you straight to the core and in my experience, it leaves you elevated, and a little more free that you were before you heard it.

Truth is freeing, Toxic certainty for me was disorienting and confusing.

My personal and professional experience has several lenses in which to look through, Self-leadership is when the core of who you are is driving your life, not your wounds.

The Internal Family systems therapeutic model calls this Self-Energy
The New called it being Woke
The Rebels call it Sovereignty
The Spiritual community calls it Ascension

I call it Freedom. The deepest human longing is freedom from suffering.

You can recognise it by these characteristics = compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, calm, confidence, courage, and connectedness.

My goal, always, is to spark your mind to get in touch with your heart. In my experience, that connection is forged through being able to feel into your body.

For me, this has been the intersection where self leadership has come into form.

19/08/2024

When people say, “ trust your gut” This truth always comes to mind. We need to really dig deep, and get really honest with ourselves to learn what our fear response is reacting to. Sometimes it just might be something new and wonderful 🌸🌱

11/08/2024

Do you struggle to own the truth of your needs and the life you want because you fear "it is too much" or " not realistic" ?
Have you noticed yourself being needless to stay in connection? You can't find your people if you hide who you are.

10/08/2024

If you want to know what a culture values, look at who (and what) people admire and aspire to be.

Usually, this revolves around being famous, excelling in a career, being physically attractive, or various other traits that externally signal perceived power.

Mothers particularly are not seen in our society as one of the most important and influential roles. Her role is expected sacrifice with very little support.

The consistent, supportive mother is positively shaping the self image of another human being. I’m not sure there is any role more “important” than how the next generation sees themselves, how they’ll engage in relationships, and how they’ll behave within the world.

A mother healing her own generational trauma while consciously raising her child, provides a value to society that culture hasn’t yet come to fully understand.

Respect and admiration for mothers everywhere having the courage to learn new ways of being, who have decided the cycle ends with them, and who wake up daily as the most important figure in their child’s life

08/08/2024

Hello Maleny and Sunshine Coast,

I've recently moved to Maleny from Brisbane and would love to share my Counselling services with you from my private and peaceful location.

How many Counsellor’s have you been to and left feeling disappointed?
I am available for a complimentary 15 min chat to see if you feel we would be a good fit to work together.

Sometimes we have gone as far as we can with “talk therapy” and need another way to access the next layer of healing and recovery.
I have experience with Expressive Therapies and Somatic therapy (Sensorimotor Psychotherapy) which can be helpful to access the deeper wisdom within you in a gentle and supportive way. Often what is needed most for recovery, is emotional safety. A place to be radically honest, without fear of judgment.

If you're feeling stuck, powerless, lost, to blame, or anything other than self-love and acceptance, or if you have experienced trauma, which we all have to some degree or another. Let us normalise it and stop being alone in it. I would love to help empower you.

I provide a safe, non-judgemental, and loving space for you to realign as your authentic self. This is my definition of wellness.

I am a registered Counsellor with the Australian Counselling Association and hold a degree in psychology. I will soon be able to offer private health rebates. I am a lifelong learner and have completed other complimentary studies to allow for connection in ways that suit a range of people.

For more details on my background, please visit: internalconnectionscounselling.com.au

06/08/2024

What kind of life are you dreaming of? What is one step you took today?

02/08/2024

People recover form emotional wounds within enviornments that are emotionally safe.

We’ve all been given experience that we’ve been unable to process consciously. This is one of the basic characteristics of trauma, unendurable emotional pain that hasn’t been able to find a relational home in which it can be held.

There are times in my clinical work when I’ll meet with someone who is really suffering, but they can’t actually feel that pain. They’re not able to make contact with the felt quality of the open wound.

Instead, there’s a protective numbing, a dissociative shut down and collapse into the somatic unconscious. From here, the lost orphans of psyche and soma burn, ache, and long for holding.

This response is coherent and makes sense based on what happened earlier in their lives, and was an adaptive response in the face of survival-level anxiety and annihilatory panic, to the very real threat of psychic disintegration.

Trauma is the experience of de-linking – left and right, top and bottom, limbic and cortical, body and mind – and linkage occurs through the felt sense of safety.

Where we find a way, guided by mercy and grace, to touch that experience, hold it in love, make sense of it, and integrate it into a new cohesive narrative.

Slow and safe. I’m with you, and you’re safe. I’m with you and you’re safe. You’re no longer alone. And you’re safe.

While insight and clarity can be supportive, it is right-brain immersion in fields of safety which fosters cellular restructuring.

The psyche will reassemble when it feels safe.

The body will reorganize when it feels safe.

18/04/2024

In this workshop I will introduce you to the world of Expressive Therapies and scratch the surface of the profound potential and power of accessing the unconscious mind via miniature representations.

Through this method, as we engage with external prompts, we have the ability to unlock the wisdom of our inner selves, cultivating a deeper understanding of our narratives and inner workings. As we journey into our psyche unveiling hidden insights and your strenghts, we forge a reconnection to our internal guidance. Facilitating growth and change by proxy.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/archetypal-minatures-workshop-where-magic-and-science-meet-tickets-883040667407?aff=oddtdtcreator

Booking also available by direct transfer on request

08/12/2023

Activism - loudly sharing power, Sovereignty - Is quietly standing in it.

23/11/2023

Hmm the F word... not that one. Feminism. I have spent my whole life living by feminist principals and been too scared to call myself a Feminist. Like the author points out, I tend to call it social justice. Feminism is not hating men, its loving everyone while simultaneously challenging the narrative that lets people off the hook when they do harm. tps://www.peak-resilience.com/if-its-not-feminist-its-not-therapy/

Jennifer Hollinshead, MA, RCC-ACS, CCC-S What does this mean in a nutshell? Psychotherapists, counsellors, psychologists and social workers must practise under the scope and guidance of their professional ethical codes, otherwise they will be disciplined and/or removed from practising.  Therapeutic...

21/10/2023

Sending compassion to anyone with a dysregulated nervous system right now ❤️ May you find peace and freedom 😌