23/12/2025
"I love my kids but I've completely lost myself."
She said this in our first session. Exhausted. Not just physically tired but emotionally depleted. Everything went into motherhood and there was nothing left for her. She couldn't remember who she was before.
Her relationship was falling apart. She felt isolated. Vulnerable. Like she was failing at everything.
When we traced this pattern through IRM, we discovered something profound.
This wasn't just about her. Her mum had done the same thing. Disappeared into motherhood. Sacrificed everything. And her grandmother before that. Generation after generation of women pouring themselves out completely.
Her nervous system had learned that this is what 'good' mothers do. You sacrifice. You support. You manage. You disappear. That's what love requires.
She recognized it immediately. Of course she did. She'd watched her mother do it. But recognizing it intellectually and releasing it from her body are two completely different things.
As we worked together, her system started to understand something new. I can be a good mum AND have a self. I don't have to choose between my children and my life.
Three months later, she told me she felt like herself again. Like she was actually living instead of just surviving.
And her kids? They were getting a better mum. Not because she was doing more, but because she wasn't running on empty. She was present. Her relationship started healing. The whole household shifted.
This is what breaking generational patterns looks like. You don't just change for yourself. You change what your children inherit.
💬 Mothers, have you lost yourself in motherhood? Tell me in the comments.
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