11/10/2019
I didn't write this, but every word rings true as if I had. It brings back the message to "read your baby, not the books". Your baby hasn't read those parenting books, and therefore only needs what they need, if you learn their cues, life can just fall into place around them ❤️
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I don’t count wake ups.
I don’t know how long she naps.
I’m not sure how long she goes between feeds.
Well, not in a formal way anyway... My way of *counting* wake ups is to see how I feel the next day ...
Sometimes, I have no actual figure but I know it was a sh*tload!
Other times, I felt like there was nice, long stretches and I’d guesstimate, maybe 3 ... Naps are measured in terms of -
- a quick kip (catnap)
- a long nap
- a wow, you must’ve needed that (super long) nap!
Time between feeds is most obvious by the way my b***s feel ... -both bursting - too long, please feed now, my love!! This usually happens on a super busy, distracted kind of day or after a crazy long stretch at night
-one bursting- happens when I forget to swap sides at night and then we are so busy the next morning, she doesn’t feed
-even and comfortable- a couple of hours between feeds
-flat pancakes- feeding frenzy, growth spurt
This is the only level of detail I need ... we don’t need to live by the clock or count arbitrary happenings.
Figures won’t help neither she nor I, but listening to each other and our bodies will.
We will ride waves of intensity and times of relative calm.
She will tell me when she needs more and also when it will be less.
When that gets too much for me, I will rally my support crew to get the respite I need to meet my needs so I can keep up with hers.
Some nights, some days, some weeks, some months will be tough and they will test us. But, we make it through the other side together.
She won’t always need me as intensely as she does right now. I will continue to meet her at her point of need, knowing she is only this little for such a little while. ❤️🥰❤️
~Carly Grubb, TBSTP Founder
📷 - Katie Emslie