Jacqueline Hogan Couples Counselling

22/07/2025

Discover Your Partner’s Unspoken Dreams - Reconnect through a heartfelt conversation. Share hidden hopes, childhood dreams, and creative longings that may have gone unspoken, until now.

This conversation starter invites gentle honesty, curiosity, and deep listening. You might be surprised by what your partner has been holding inside, or what you’ve kept quiet yourself.

Ask questions like: “Is there something creative or playful you’ve been putting off?” Then listen with your heart.

Click 'Learn More' to read the full article and explore all 10 questions to spark connection and explore each other’s dreams.

Explore your partner’s hidden hopes in this heartfelt conversation. Share unspoken dreams and reconnect through curiosity, honesty, and gentle listening.

27/06/2025

The Winter Newsletter is here! In this edition, discover easy ways to stay connected as the days get shorter and the heater stays on.

I also share why daily check-ins might be your new go-to when life gets busy and you don't have time for a weekly couples catch-up.

We also take a look at practicing appreciation, and how it's often the unsung hero behind deeper intimacy and stronger connection.

I've also announced new retreat dates for couples who are ready to commit to deep relationship transformation. Find this and more - all in the Winter Newsletter!

Click the link in the comments to 'warm up' your relationship now. 😊

26/05/2025

Create Relationship Harmony by Exploring Your Life Values.
Sometimes, it’s not the big gestures, but the small, meaningful questions that bring you closer.

Have you ever asked your partner:
“What Life Values will support us in raising strong, healthy children?”
“What healthy behaviours can we embrace to strengthen our connection?”
“How can I support you to live by your values more fully?”

These types of conversations help you move beyond daily distractions and reconnect on a deeper level. By reflecting on your Life Values, and sharing them with each other you’ll build a stronger foundation of trust, authenticity, and shared meaning.

When we live in alignment with our values, love feels easier, more connected, and more joyful. In fact one of the first things, couples who work with me do, is create their top 20 set of shared values together. 🥰

Ready to explore the power of Life Values further? Discover 50+ more powerful questions to grow your relationship in the article on my website. Click the link in the comments below to begin.

15/05/2025

Have you tried the 'Love Spark' affirmation audios? They are a uplifting and relaxing way to counter negative sentiment that might be clouding your relationship. By listening along and embracing the messages you can shift your mindset, and create a positive space for reconnection and clarity.

By lowering your defenses, and focusing on key relationship themes, you can improve self-worth, practice gratitude, find forgiveness and more.

While the full deck of Love Sparks covers 10 important relationship themes, I've recorded 4 tracks to support your relationship.

1 - Enduring love: A tranquil nature themed soundscape supports messages of hope, responsibility and enduring love. Reflect and frame your unique relationship in a positive light.

2 - Love Shine: A subtle sound-space supports caring messages of forgiveness, self care, and the power of love. Gratitude and appreciation of each other let’s your love shine!

3 - Loving Boundaries & Strength: A calming stringed instrument intertwines with affirmations to support a safe and healthy relationship. Gather your strengths, find reprieve and attract love by loving your self first.

4 - Loving Foundations: A soft tank drum dances around ‘foundational messages’ for a strong, yet flexible relationship. Simple and timeless messages are grounding for your relationship – where deep roots can grow!

Click the link in the comments to visit my website and listen to the one that feels right for you - or treat yourself and listen to them all! 🥰Enjoy!

07/05/2025

4 fast benefits that you'll experience when you start having Smooth Conversations - to improve communication in your relationship.

That's right, you don't have to wait weeks or months to start seeing results. You can feel the transformation take place from your very first Smooth Conversation. Sure, deeper transformation takes time, but small changes bring much needed hope and confidence to keep going.

The first benefit is 'Less Arguing and More Understanding'. By starting with clarity, couples spend less time in heated arguments.

The next benefit you get to experience early on by using Smooth Conversations is 'Increased Emotional Safety'. As communication improves, you’ll feel more comfortable expressing yourself and opening up to your partner – without fear of judgment, criticism, or rejection.

To discover the next 2 'early benefits' follow the link in the comments to read the whole article - and for even more 'longer term benefits' be sure to download the whole Smooth Conversations Guidebook PDF - its free! 😄

06/05/2025

help you slow down and find creative solutions to seemingly gridlocked problems. Download the free guidebook from my website to learn more. Visit Jacquelinehogan.com today.

13/04/2025

💔 Struggling to talk without it turning into an argument?

You’re not alone — it’s one of the most common issues couples face.

That’s why we created Smooth Conversations — a simple, effective way to ask better questions *in the moment*, so you can have calm, meaningful conversations (even during tough times).

📘 The free guidebook is packed with practical tips, helpful strategies, and real-life tools to help you reconnect — starting with your very next conversation.

💬 For example, try asking:

“What would a compromise look like?”

…instead of digging your heels in or shutting down.

📥 Download the Smooth Conversations Guidebook free from www.jacquelinehogan.com or the link in bio.

02/04/2025

Do you struggle with conversations going off track? And later on you're scratching your head asking yourself why and wondering what went wrong?

Why does this keep happening? There are a few things at play - one of them is coming in hot - putting your partner on the back foot from the get-go.

Another is getting easily triggered, and snapping in defense. Which means the real stuff you needed to talk about gets lost.

But here's the thing, It’s not that you don’t love each other. It’s that you’ve never been shown how to talk through the hard stuff, and avoid the common communication blunders. Instead you end up hurting each other, and that’s where the Smooth Conversations Guidebook comes in.

This guidebook isn’t just theory - it’s a practical, easy to understand guide to help you have Smooth Conversations. Seek clarity with less tension. Be less defensive. Manage your emotions, and get that deeper connection you're after to safely talk through difficult and sensitive topics.

Did I mention it's free! Yep! Head over to my website now - and download your free copy of the Smooth Conversations Guidebook. Link is in the comments.

21/03/2025

The Autumn Newsletter is here, and it's a special one!
That's right - we're excited to announce the release of the Smooth Conversations Guidebook - available now in the newsletter & on our website.

It's a free, helpful guide for couples. Reduce conflict, understand each other, repair relationship problems and communicate kindly for a healthy, and happy relationship.

For couples facing relationship challenges - the guidebook is a treasure trove of insights, tips and tricks to help you have Smooth Conversations and get your relationship back on track.

Click the link below to open the newsletter, and download the guidebook.
https://mailchi.mp/bc8df6bc8281/autumn-newsletter-2025

17/03/2025

Sneak peak at the cover of the Smooth Conversations guidebook - coming soon!

Say goodbye to arguing and blame, and hello to peace and understanding...

Coming out soon in our Autumn newsletter!

13/03/2025

The ‘accurate engineer’ comes home from work, frustrated from a day riddled with mistakes, delays and problems, seemingly caused by a mix of sloppy work, laziness and incompetence.

Upon coming home, the frustration continues as she finds ‘the place a mess’ and the evenings plans have changed.

Normally this would cause the ‘accurate engineer’ to boil over, and ‘raise hell’ in the home, as she let’s her frustrations fly to anyone within earshot – usually her partner, and kids.

Now though – The 'accurate engineer', leaves her ‘work at work’ and changes hats as she arrives home. She practices a short routine to decompress and adopt her ‘at home’ traits and roles.

This means she is more accepting of ‘some mess’ as she walks through the door. She is more tolerant to changing plans, and is more available and flexible to her partner and family needs.

This simple shift—pausing, being self-aware, lowering stress, and stepping into her 'at home role' transformed the way she connects with her family. But what really makes the difference? Being present, open to listening, and understanding before reacting.

Want to learn how to become a better listener and strengthen your relationships?

Read the complete article here on my website and discover my top tips to be a great listener, while avoiding the most common pitfalls and traps, I see many couples fall into. Link is in the comments below.

12/03/2025

A ‘walled off’ husband is struggling to share his feelings and his relationship is suffering. His childhood family life was dysfunctional and has suffered through several traumatic events growing up.

In his 50’s now, his default mode is ‘very quiet’. The house is quiet, and there is a sombre mood about the home. Their two children have left home, but even their aging dog is not enough to lighten the mood.

Without change, the relationship will eventually fall apart, and lead to divorce.

After choosing to change and ‘do something’ instead…

The walled off husband now greets his wife lovingly as she arrives home. He asks how her day was, and has something of interest to talk about.

He uses communication resources to help him open up and be more attentive. He has shifted from his go-to ‘avoidance behaviour’ to taking responsibility, and changing his ‘baked in old habits’.

She acknowledges his efforts and extends her warmth and affection lovingly – even in small way’s, it’s much appreciated.

They’ve made exciting travel plans together. They listen to each other’s dreams and ideas. They support each other better, and are quick to provide support – especially when one is feeling down.

Small changes around the home have shifted the space to have a fresh lively energy about it. A better space for chatting, playing music, connecting, laughing, and having family and friends around.

At the heart of this story is something simple yet powerful - being a good listener.

So often, the biggest breakthroughs come from 'not the perfect words we say', but when we are humble enough, to well shut-up and listen! Want to learn how to be a good listener? Check out this article - titled, you guessed it: 'How to be a Good Listener' - link in the comments...