30/09/2025
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Dragging a child into school is not support.
It’s trauma.
Anyone who tells you to do this is actually harming the child physically and emotionally. As an adult, can you imagine if we did the same?
When a child refuses school, it’s rarely about defiance.
It’s EBSA (Emotionally Based School Avoidance) - a nervous system overwhelmed by fear, anxiety or sensory overload. Forcing them through the gates doesn’t “build resilience.” It pushes them deeper into survival mode.
I know the pressure parents face: threats of fines, welfare checks, services insisting attendance must come first. But when a child is dragged in, their trust is broken. The message they receive is: your fear doesn’t matter.
And once that trust is gone, it can take years to repair.
We need to shift the focus:
✨ From compliance to connection.
✨ From punishment to understanding.
✨ From force to support.
Children don’t learn when they’re in fight, flight or freeze. They learn when they feel safe.
💭 Have you ever been pressured to physically force your child into school? What did you do instead? If you were made to do this, please go easy on yourself, you should never have been pressurised to do it in the first place!
I have a free guide on EBSA, just drop the word 'resource' below and I'll send you a link for more details...