05/02/2026
🥸 Signs You're Not Being Your Authentic Self 🥸
Growing up, I REALLY tried to hide myself. Remember that fear of being seen stuff I talked about? Well, that's exactly what it was. I was afraid of conflict AND being judged. I CARED what people thought of me. 🫣
I would agree with things that I didn't believe to be true, I would hide behind people whose voices were louder than mine, I would constantly be OVERLY nice to people because I could sense that they didn't like me.
Once I came out of my shell more and showed my authentic self more, I found that the people that mattered, stayed. The people that didn't value me, left. Along with this, I did my own weeding out, which was INCREDIBLY cathartic! 💆🏼♀️
A while ago, I had a situation with a "friend" where they were trying to force their opinion and views on me, and while I was in an anxious state where I didn't want to rock the boat further, so didn't say too much and sugar-coated things to "keep the peace"...This "friend" didn't care so much.
They would talk to anyone and everyone about it and make everyone uncomfortable in social situations by questioning me over it as well. They showed a lack of respect for not just me, but others as well. While I should've told them to s**u at the time (trust me...I felt it strongly in my body), I stood my ground and stayed true to my own beliefs regardless. And that in itself was massive progress!
I'm STILL learning to stay strong in my voice and not allow others to shut me down. Life is ONE big learning curve, let me tell you! Maybe next time I'll actually tell someone to s**u 😉🤣
Have YOU found yourself in situations where you haven't been yourself and wish you were? Share below! 👇🏾