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Do you suffer anxiety, stress, low mood
Do you need support in your relationship
Is the underlying cause childhood upbringing
Does it affect your health via IBS issues or weight
Everything is connected
Find your joy via shifting your behaviour & thoughts

06/09/2025

Healing alone can feel like climbing a mountain with no guide—it takes courage, strength, and persistence.

But often, that solitude teaches you:
Resilience – proving to yourself that you can survive hard things.
Self-trust – learning to rely on your own inner wisdom.
Clarity – hearing your own voice without outside noise.
Freedom – healing on your terms, without needing validation.

And while much of the journey can feel solitary, healing doesn’t have to mean being alone forever. Safe connections—with friends, therapists, support groups, or even spiritual practices—can lighten the load.

Sometimes the bravest step is beginning the healing journey by yourself, and the wisest step is allowing support along the way.

05/09/2025

When trauma is buried instead of being processed, it doesn’t go away—it often leaks out in subtle or destructive ways. Here are some of the main ways life can suffer:

1. Emotional Effects
Anxiety, depression, or mood swings that feel “out of nowhere.”
Numbness or emotional shutdown—difficulty feeling joy, love, or connection.
Overreactions to small stressors (because the nervous system is on high alert).

2. Physical Health
Chronic tension, pain, or fatigue.
Headaches, gut issues, autoimmune flare-ups.
Sleep problems, like insomnia or nightmares.

3. Relationships
Fear of vulnerability, difficulty trusting others.
Codependency or repeated toxic relationship patterns.
Emotional distance, pushing people away when closeness feels unsafe.

4. Self-Image
Low self-worth, self-blame, or shame.
Feeling like you’re “broken” or “too much.”
Perfectionism or people-pleasing as a way to hide pain.

5. Coping Behaviors
Overeating, substance use, overworking, or compulsive behaviors.
Avoidance of places, people, or experiences that trigger memories.
Escapism through constant busyness, social media, or fantasy.

6. Life Direction
Difficulty setting or achieving goals due to fear or self-sabotage.
Staying small or stuck instead of reaching potential.
Feeling like life is being “survived” instead of lived fully.

Unprocessed trauma quietly controls you—it shapes your choices, relationships, and health, often without you realizing why. Healing doesn’t erase the past, but it frees up your energy to live in the present instead of being trapped in old wounds.

04/09/2025

Not every battle is visible. Many people carry silent struggles that shape who they are. If that’s you, be proud — not because it was easy, but because you endured, adapted, and grew. That’s resilience at work.”

03/09/2025

If you recognise you need to create change
When will you take a step forward ?
Ask yourself what thoughts and emotions are holding you back.

05/08/2025

Your child was not born to be an echo of your life or a correction of your regrets.

It’s tempting to guide our children by handing them the map we wish we’d followed — a safer one, a “better” one, a corrected version of our own.

But here’s the truth:
Every child arrives with their own map.
Your job isn’t to edit it — it’s to help them read it.

Holding space for their curiosity, not just compliance.
Supporting their dreams, not trying to fix your past through them.
Letting go of the belief that parenting is control.

Healing generational patterns begins when we stop projecting our pain and start witnessing their path.

30/07/2025

Discomfort is the Gateway to Change.
Discomfort signals growth. When your nervous system detects something unfamiliar — a new boundary, a shift in identity, or a step toward healing — it reacts. You might feel anxious, resistant, or stuck.

But here’s the truth:
Discomfort doesn’t mean something is wrong.
It means something is moving.

Therapy, change, healing, and growth all begin with stepping into unfamiliar emotional territory.
It’s not easy — but it’s where resilience is built, patterns are broken, and transformation begins.

Next time you feel uncomfortable, pause.
Ask: What’s growing here?

That discomfort? It might be the doorway you’ve been waiting for.

25/07/2025

Morgan Freeman once said:
“There comes a day when you no longer feel the need to prove anything to anyone. Not because you’ve given up, but because you’ve grown.”
You grow tired — tired of explaining, of justifying, of shrinking yourself to fit into other people’s lives.
Tired of waiting for messages that never come, apologies that never arrive, people who don’t know how to love.
The truth is simple:
Not everyone will understand you.
Not everyone will stay.
Not everyone will treat you the way you deserve.
But they don’t have to.
Because there comes a moment when you choose peace.
You choose silence over reaction.
You stop lowering yourself into other people’s storms.
Because sometimes, the most mature response is silence.
The strongest move is to walk away.
And the greatest act of self-love is to stop putting yourself last.
It’s not selfishness — it’s healing.
It’s the courage to choose yourself.
To rebuild your soul without anyone’s approval.
To keep moving forward — even alone — but with dignity.
And when you do that… life begins to realign.
Because the right people don’t ask for explanations.
They see you.
They feel you.
They respect you — without you having to beg for it.
— Morgan Freeman

16/07/2025

Unlearning behaviours and becoming unstuck is a powerful process that involves awareness, compassion, and conscious action. It’s not just about breaking habits — it’s about reprogramming your mind, emotions, and nervous system to support who you are becoming, not who you were.

You’re not broken — you’re patterned. And patterns can be changed.

14/07/2025

Being kind to others as a way to be kind to yourself is a beautiful and deeply healing practice. Here’s how it works — and why it’s not about people-pleasing, but self-nourishment:

1. Kindness Aligns You With Your True Nature

When you’re kind to others, you stay connected to your values — and that creates inner peace.
You’re not letting people “off the hook,” you’re letting yourself off the hook from bitterness, resentment, and reactivity.

“I’m being kind because that’s who I choose to be — not because they deserve it, but because I do.”

2. It Soothes Your Nervous System

When you respond to others with warmth instead of defensiveness, you regulate your own body. You stay out of the fight-or-flight trap, which can leave you drained or regretful.

Try silently repeating:
“I choose calm. I choose grace.”

3. Kindness Protects Your Energy

Being unkind often leads to guilt, shame, or regret — even if justified in the moment.
But when you choose kindness, you leave the situation with your integrity intact.

4. It Fosters Self-Respect

Kindness is not weakness — it’s power under control. It builds a deep self-trust:
“Even when things get messy, I know who I am.”

That’s a powerful form of self-care.

5. It Breaks Cycles You Don’t Want to Repeat

If you were raised around harshness, criticism, or coldness, choosing kindness is how you heal.
It says:
“I don’t have to repeat what hurt me. I can be the soft place I always needed.”

08/07/2025

We often find it hard to accept compliments for a few key psychological and emotional reasons:

1. Low Self-Esteem or Self-Worth

If someone doesn’t believe they’re worthy of praise, a compliment can create internal discomfort. It clashes with their inner narrative (e.g. “I’m not good enough”), so they dismiss it or deflect it.

2. Fear of Arrogance

Many people—especially those raised in cultures or families that value humility—worry that accepting a compliment will make them seem conceited or boastful. So instead of saying “Thank you,” they downplay or reject the praise.

3. Social Conditioning

Some are taught to be modest or self-effacing from a young age. Complimenting yourself or accepting praise openly might feel like breaking an unspoken social rule.

4. Imposter Syndrome

When people feel like they’ve “faked” their way into success or that they’re not truly talented, compliments feel undeserved. They may think others are being nice or are misinformed.

5. Trust Issues

If someone’s been manipulated, judged harshly, or emotionally hurt in the past, they may struggle to trust the intentions behind praise. They might wonder, “What does this person want from me?”

6. Emotional Vulnerability

Compliments can make people feel exposed. Accepting kind words can touch emotional wounds, making someone unexpectedly tearful or uncomfortable—especially if they’ve gone without positive reinforcement for a long time.

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A Helpful Reframe:

Try thinking of a compliment as a gift. If someone gave you a thoughtful present, you wouldn’t say, “No thanks, I don’t deserve this.” You’d simply say, “Thank you.” Compliments are the same—they’re someone else’s positive perspective, and accepting them can actually strengthen connection and self-trust.

29/06/2025

Green flags in people. :

✅ They communicate with honesty, not ego
✅ They take responsibility instead of shifting blame
✅ They respect your boundaries without question
✅ They can sit with emotions without exploding or shutting down
✅ They celebrate your growth, not compete with it
✅ They make you feel seen, not judged

Healthy people feel calm, consistent, and clear.
It’s not too much to expect—it’s the baseline. 💚

23/06/2025

For People Living with Anxiety:

Anxiety has a way of shrinking your world.

It makes you second-guess your decisions, overthink every interaction, and brace for what might go wrong—just in case. You become hyper-alert, constantly scanning for danger. It’s exhausting, but also familiar. It can feel like the only way to stay safe.

But healing doesn’t always come with a dramatic breakthrough. Sometimes, it starts when someone introduces you to a new way of being—one that doesn’t revolve around fear.

In therapy, you’re not asked to “calm down” or “stop overthinking.” Instead, you’re invited to gently explore safety—bit by bit. Not just intellectually, but in your body.

You learn to pause instead of panic. To breathe instead of brace.
You meet a version of yourself who doesn’t always have to anticipate the worst.
You realize it’s possible to live with anxiety, not be ruled by it.

And often, you discover that your anxiety isn’t who you are—it’s a strategy your nervous system built to protect you.

When you’re introduced to new ways of thinking and being, it’s not about fixing you. It’s about freeing you.

Address

189-191 Balaclava Road, Caulfield
Melbourne, VIC
3161

Telephone

+61411114587

Website

http://Www.themindfultherapist.com.au/

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