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Do you suffer anxiety, stress, low mood
Do you need support in your relationship
Is the underlying cause childhood upbringing
Does it affect your health via IBS issues or weight
Everything is connected
Find your joy via shifting your behaviour & thoughts

12/10/2025

When someone intentionally criticises your behaviour, it often says more about their inner state than yours. Their reaction is likely a triggered response — meaning your words or actions have unconsciously reminded them of a past wound, insecurity, or unresolved emotion. Instead of seeing the present moment clearly, they’re reacting to an old story being replayed in their nervous system.

Recognising this doesn’t excuse poor behaviour, but it does shift your perspective — from defensiveness to understanding. You can choose to stay grounded, observe the projection, and avoid getting pulled into their emotional storm. In that space, awareness becomes your protection.

Comment if you’ve been criticised lately.

09/10/2025

We all have some form of trauma.
Where are you holding your trauma and how are you coping.
What are your coping mechanisms? Nail biting. Alcohol. Stuttering. Insomnia. Phobias. Low worth.

05/10/2025

Co-Regulation — The Healing Power of Presence

Your nervous system can sync with another person’s.
When you’re grounded, calm, and safe — others feel it too.

Surround yourself with others that allows regulation of your nervous system to feel safe and trust, more than your words ever could.

That allows you to -
💚 Breathe slowly.
💚 Speak gently.
💚 Soften your body.
💚 Offer steady eye contact.

This is co-regulation — the nervous system’s way of saying, “You’re safe here.”

04/10/2025

We Suffer in Silence — But We Don’t Have To

So many of us wear invisible masks.
We smile, we work, we show up — all while carrying an undercurrent of anxiety and dysregulated nervous system that ticks quietly beneath the surface. We tell ourselves “I’m fine”, even when our body tells a different story: a tight chest, racing heart, restless nights.

This silent suffering is more common than we think.
Anxiety thrives in isolation — it feeds on secrecy and shame, regret, guilt. The more we hide it, the stronger it grows. But the moment we speak about it, something begins to shift. Reaching out doesn’t mean you’re weak; it means you’ve decided to stop facing the storm alone.

Therapy offers a safe space to explore what’s really going on beneath the surface. It helps you understand the patterns that keep anxiety alive — the overthinking, the people-pleasing, the constant vigilance — and gently replaces them with calm, clarity, and self-compassion.
Book your free 30mins discovery call.

Hope is not just a word. It’s a possibility that begins the moment you decide to reach out.
Change starts with one brave conversation.

02/10/2025

You Don’t Need to Suffer

So many people carry silent pain for years, believing they just have to “get on with it” or “be strong.” But the truth is—you don’t need to suffer. Healing is possible, no matter how long you’ve been struggling.

Through hypnotherapy and gentle therapeutic work, we can release old patterns, calm the nervous system, and create new ways of thinking and feeling that support your wellbeing. You don’t have to do this alone.

If you’re ready to feel lighter, calmer, and more in control of your life, I’m here to guide you. The first step is simply reaching out. 💙

24/09/2025

In some cases, withdrawing and isolating oneself is a learned survival mechanism — a way to feel safe after experiencing trauma, especially interpersonal or developmental trauma.

• Childhood Neglect or Abuse: If a child learns that others are unsafe or unpredictable, they may grow up preferring solitude as a defense.
• Betrayal Trauma: After being hurt deeply in relationships, someone may begin to associate closeness with danger.
• C-PTSD or PTSD: Isolation can become a coping mechanism to avoid triggers or dysregulation.

In these cases, being alone isn’t a neutral preference — it’s protective and self-soothing, even if it’s also lonely or limiting.

22/09/2025

Trauma coping mechanisms are the psychological, emotional, and behavioral strategies people use—consciously or unconsciously—to manage the stress, fear, and emotional pain caused by these traumatic experiences.

Coping Mechanisms

These may provide temporary relief but often worsen long-term outcomes:
1. Avoidance or Denial
Refusing to think or talk about the trauma
Pretending it didn’t happen
2. Substance Use
Using drugs, alcohol, smoking or other substances to numb pain
3. Self-Harm
Physical harm to release emotional pain or feel in control
4. Overworking or Overexercising
Using busyness to avoid emotional processing
5. Isolation
Withdrawing from others and social support
6. Disordered Eating
Using food restriction, bingeing, purging as a form of control and excessive eating , excessive sugar.
7. Habits and behaviours.
Nail biting.
Stuttering
Shyness
Poor communication

18/09/2025

A trigger is a stimulus — an action, word, tone, situation, or event — that evokes a strong emotional reaction, often disproportionate to the situation. These reactions usually stem from:

Past trauma
Childhood experiences
Attachment wounds
Repressed emotions
Unresolved conflicts

Can you identify yours ?
Once we identify them - you start to understand yourself. The process creates awareness to shift behaviour. To break the cycle.

14/09/2025

You’re not alone in feeling this way. And nothing about what you’re experiencing makes you weak, dramatic, or broken beyond repair.

When you say, “Something in me broke,” that’s not just pain — it’s awareness. It’s a quiet truth rising from somewhere deep, where your wounds haven’t been given the space to breathe. It’s the voice of a part of you that has held too much for too long — and is now asking to be seen, not silenced.

You’re still here. That matters.

The fact that you’re able to notice what you’re feeling — to put words to it — means there’s still a you inside who cares. Someone strong enough to function, yes. But also someone human enough to hurt. And that deserves deep respect, not judgment.

About the “smiling and functioning”…

In therapy, we often meet people who are “high-functioning but hurting.” People who go through the motions, meet expectations, laugh at the right times — but quietly carry emotional exhaustion, loneliness, or grief underneath.

This coping isn’t fake — it’s a survival skill. It’s how you’ve managed to hold your world together when everything inside felt like it was falling apart. That’s not weakness — that’s resilience.

But it’s also not sustainable forever. And it’s okay if the weight is finally catching up to you. It should. You’re human.

12/09/2025

Can Social Media Cause Trauma?

Spending too much time on social media can trigger/worsen trauma in several ways:

🔹 How It Affects You:
• Exposure to disturbing content can cause anxiety or vicarious trauma.
• Toxic comparisons can lead to low self-esteem and depression.
• Online bullying or harassment can cause emotional distress.
• Addictive use can lead to isolation, burnout, and poor sleep.

🔹 Signs to Watch For:
• Feeling drained or anxious after scrolling
• Trouble sleeping
• Obsessive checking
• Feeling inadequate or left out

🔹 What You Can Do:
• Limit screen time
• Unfollow negative accounts
• Take breaks from social media
• Balance with real-life activities

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189-191 Balaclava Road, Caulfield
Melbourne, VIC
3161

Telephone

+61411114587

Website

http://Www.themindfultherapist.com.au/

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