Renewed Beliefs - Doing stepfamily life well.

14/07/2025

The true neanjng of Agape love. A love that we choose to freely give supported by our values, not the expectations of others
“Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity." (C. S. Lewis)

19/02/2025

You look after the things and people you care about. As a teen I was often in trouble for messy hair because I did not care that much. My nails on the other hand looked great because they mattered to me. My family and friends matter to me. Self love is essential to be able to self care. Self care is essential when we are stepparents and parents supporting and raising a family together

You can’t heal from a place of self criticism. It just doesn’t work. You can try it if you’d like, but you’ll be met with a brick wall of unwanted patterns and irritation. The goal is to replace criticism with compassion. And if you can’t arrive at compassion just yet, let it be curiosity. Become curious about yourself instead of simply being critical of yourself. Remind yourself that your behavior does actually make sense when you understand the context. But if you just criticize yourself, or hate yourself, or roll your eyes at yourself over and over and over again, you’re going to stay stuck. To see yourself through a lens of clarity, to see yourself through a lens of compassion is one of the most beautiful offerings for healing that we can give. You stay responsible for your actions and your behavior, but making change has to come from a place of love rather than hate, compassion rather than criticism. Try it.

19/02/2025

Hi everyone. Just wanting to bring these two wonderful books to your attention if you have kinder to early primary age children adjusting to their new stepfamily. They are beautifully illustrated and address the challenges young children may face yet struggle to put into words. It’s a great way to open a conversation with them and give children permission to struggle and know there is hope in the resources not only through the books but the love and support of parents and stepparents.

20/01/2025

The Emotional Bank Account is a powerful concept in Gottman’s research, showing how trust and connection grow in relationships. Every act of kindness, appreciation, and support you give is a deposit, while criticism, neglect, or missed opportunities to connect are withdrawals.

What deposit can you make today to strengthen your bond? Want to learn more about how the Emotional Bank Account works? Learn more on our blog: https://bit.ly/4gLE9av

13/01/2025

13/01/2025

25/11/2024

STEPFAMILY LIFE????
5 Questions asked by parents re-partnering.
1. Can we get pre-de-facto/marital counselling
to get ourselves off to a good start?
2. I feel like an outsider when I am with my partner
and his/her children. Please help me with this.
3. I want to be compassionate and helpful to both
my partner and children. How do I achieve this
when they feel I am favouring the other?
4. We get on well until we talk about the kids. Can
you help us with a healthier way to communicate?
5. Our parenting styles are so different. How can we
raise our children under the same roof?
These are just 5 of many questions I am asked from
couples and individuals that come and see me. If any
of these questions resonate with you, please do not
hesitate to contact me for further information on how I
can support you.

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17/11/2024

Christmas is knocking at our door. Traditions are big and important in families during this time. This can be tricky when a Stepcouple are negotiating 2 family traditions. When I remarried I was so excited to buy the Christmas tree I always wanted. It is purple, two metres tall and had to have all white and silver decorations. This meant no home made kinder decorations, no decorations from either previous family Christmas’s. I got what I wanted, our children/stepchildren also got their traditions respected. We had
another smaller Christmas green tree that became a center piece with all the children’s homemade decorations on it. The new tree had my step childrens’angel on the top. I bought baubles with all the children’s names on them to put on the new tree. We included old traditions, new traditions and ones we all created together. The tree is just one example of that. How do you manage traditions in your stepfamily.

15/11/2024

Introduce yourself to the Gottman institute. Great research, great information for couples and families.

09/05/2024

https://renewedbeliefs.com/husbands-and-partners-ideas-to-celebrate-your-partner-on-mothers-day/

Mother’s Day Historically is a special occasion celebrated in many parts of the world to honour mothers and other significant adult women who have significantly influenced and shaped our lives, our families, and the communities in which we live. Traditionally we have left it up to the children to ...