27/08/2025
When we become caregivers—whether to a baby, a child, or even someone in need—we often find that unresolved parts of our own history start to surface. Our little ones, in their pure and honest ways, offer us disguised opportunities to revisit the unfinished experiences of our childhood.
But it’s rarely just about our own story. Often, it’s also about the experiences our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents carried—stories of hurt, pain, sorrow and shame but also of courage, family traditions, love, hope, creativity, skills, intelligence.
We are not solitary beings. We are systemic individuals, born into families, into lineages, carrying unconscious patterns quietly repeating across generations. These patterns shape how we love, how we struggle, and how we survive—but they also carry the gifts and strengths of those who came before us.
When we begin to see life through a family-systems lens rather than purely an individual one, it’s like stepping back and realizing we are a small fish in a vast ocean, swimming alongside countless others, each navigating their own waves. From this perspective, we can begin to shift our stories, not just for ourselves, but for the generations who follow.
And in that shift, there is strength and freedom. Freedom to live more purposefully, to feel grounded, connected, and at ease with ourselves—and with life itself.
